We're trying to encourage DD (7mo) to go 4 hours between feeds at night rather than the 2 hours that seems to have become the norm. So when she's woken up and it's not "time" for a feed then we've just tried to soothe her in her bed (with mixed results - sometimes works a dream, other times leads to a major meltdown). But then often the next time she wakes up will be "feeding time", and so she gets picked up and BF.
We've been doing this for nearly 3 weeks I think and apart from the odd night there's been very little improvement (although we can now get her to fall asleep in her own bed 
) and she's still waking roughly every 2 hours.
I know consistency is supposed to be key to getting any type of sleep training to work, so presumably this will be confusing her as she never knows whether she'll be picked up and fed or expected to go back to sleep on her own. I'm guessing this is why it hasn't really worked so far?
Short of stopping night feeds altogether and going cold turkey, which I'm reluctant to do because she's not properly established on solids yet and I suspect is still taking quite a large proportion of her milk at night, how can we space her feeds out to 4 hours (or whatever) and not send mixed messages, so that she actually sleeps for 3 or 4 hours in one go [wishful thinking emoticon]?