21 month old up at least 8 times through the night for no reason!! What to do next??

[mammyjm]

He has just started going to sleep without me by his side everynight. Now its just to tackle the up through the night saga...
Before midnight he will get up at least 3 times crying, coming into my room, so I put him straight back to bed, no talking, tucked back in, night night.

Hour later he up again, so I repeat again the above...Im literally at my witts end, I work part time but still need to be up for nursery school run.

Im not sure where I went wrong down the line but im really struggling for ideas here. There is really no reason for him to be waking up through the night.

Any advice or criticism i would be grateful:(

DD1 (22 mo) has had a few nights like that recently (though she still has the sides on her cot bed so doesn't come in to see us, just screams loudly!). I just kept putting her back down and rubbing/patting her back, without talking to her or picking her up. Some nights I'd have to do it 3/4 times but it gradually went down and she has been sleeping beautifully these past few nights.

Sounds pretty similar to your situation, except I have been staying with her for 5-10 mins rubbing her back until she drifts back off which might be worth a try?

Hi, i have just been lying him down and leaving him to fall back to sleep himself as I thought this would be better. He has been like this from october last year!!

He was such a good sleeper, was always able to put him to bed awake and leave him to fall asleep unaided but one night he just changed and then was unwell and its all gone downhill from then.

To be honest I dont think staying with him would help as he may get used to it everynight.
Its just ridiculous, Im not sleeping when i go to be always thinking what time is he going to get up next, I walk around like a zombie most days and feel like im neglecting my 4 year old.

Hi, I have been having a similar problem so I am not really offering much help here - more a sort of message to say that I think there are lots of us out there and my friends tell me it's common and that they will grow out of it. We are considering putting the cot sides back on as our daughter has not slept really since they came down a week ago. Like you,mammyjm, I am lying there waiting for the next time she wakes so I am exhausted. It doesn't matter how much logic people throw at you though about having to sleep yourself so that you are fit to look after the kids, you just CAN@T SWITCH OFF!

DD1 really does sound similar to your DS as she was always a great sleeper and we have always put her down awake but she does go through these phases of having a few nights of waking up. She doesn't seem to get used to the back-rubbing as we are now back in the phase of her sleeping beautifully again.

Just want to reassure you that things do go back to normal eventually (though I'm like you in that I still wonder when I'm going to get woken up as DD2 has stopped sleeping through )

Thanks ladies, its just one of those things that comes with parenthood i need to tackle :)

I have phoned my health visitor so he is coming out to see us next week, im hoping he may have some different advice, something that I havent tried
So any new information I will be sure to pass on to you both, ha.