waking up searching for baby

[joannew26]

I have just had a baby 3 weeks old and on several ccasions now. I have woken up searching for her in my bed even thou she is save in her moses next to me. Even when my partner tells me she's ok she in her moses basket i still search for 30 secs afterwards. Should i be worried?

Oh, I remember doing that with DS1 and to a lesser extent DS2... It's the postnatal haze... I used to fall asleep after BF-ing DS1 and having safely tucked him back into his cot but would wake up panicking that I had fallen asleep while feeding him and he was still in bed and I would frantically pat around to find him only to find him safe and sound in his cot. I think it's tiredness and shock. It did soon stop happening... It happened again with DS2 but a much lesser extent as I stopped BF-ing him a lot earlier. When you have to get up to make up a bottle, you tend to be a lot more awake than when you are BF-ing!

I think it's something that a lot of us do, especially during the first few months and more so with our first child.

I wouldn't worry, though I know it's a horrible feeling at the time. It passed off without me really noticing with both of our ds's.

I used to do this a lot also...especially after feeding but it does lessen when your brain clocks you are a mum now and it is second nature. Congrats on your little one.
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I think that's normal - certainly all the other mums I've met since having DD (8 months) have done this. I used to do it multiple times a night!

Oh it's awful, but you are just tired and disoriented and so used to having a baby in your arms, it's perfectly normal.

It goes fairly soon so don't worry.

Totally normal - my Mum used to grab my Dad in a panic thinking she had dropped either me or db whilst feeding in the middle of the night. He got quite blase about it in the end.

I did it too. I would wake up in a huge panic thinking DS was under the pillow when he was actually next to me in the moses basket.

Very weird and scary when it happens though .

Oh god, me too. More so with dd than with ds but yes, and it's very scary. Maybe it's something to do with us missing our bumps in some way? Disclaimer: am not a psychologist!

Don't worry, I emptied my chest of drawers on night looking for dd......

I still do this at 6 months with DS in the other room.

Last night I woke up ever hour and a half panicking that something was wrong with DS...he slept soundly for 9.5 hours. I should take a lesson from him.

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Oh god I remember that stage.

I think this means your perfectly normal (sorry)

I had it too.

I still do it occasionally. My dcs are 5 and 1...

Feels horrid at the time, doesn't it?

Oh yes normal... I used to regularly leap out of bed at about 1am shrieking "I haven't fed the baby!" or "Where did I put the baby!!!???" to poor DP. I would be convinced they needed something vitally important and I'd neglected to do it. Literally heart pounding and flapping about in a total state until DP calmed me down.

Yep, I did it. Terrifying.

I used to do this with DD1 (and to a lesser extent DD2). I used to wake up in a cold sweat, swear blind that DD1 was suffocating under the duvet and shake poor DH awake to try and find her. It happened several times and he grew less and less enamoured with me at that time!

DD1 was fine.

Congratulations on your baby

Ummm beachy , chest of drawers? Could you elaborate please

Did this the other night! DD is aged 1. DH just sat there with a resigned and bleary expression on his face whilst I yanked the duvet off and attempted to look under the mattresses... To be fair, she does often sleep in the same bed with us.

Oh god yes, several times a night sometimes. I'd forgotten all about this - got it to look forward to again in a few weeks!

Basically - don't panic because you aren't going insane

I didn't do it in bed, but used to do it in the car. Would suddenly be convinced they weren't in the car. If I couldn't reach around and physically touch them, I would have to stop the car and lean over into the back seat to check.

I did this exact same thing for the first few weeks with all three of mine, and still occasionally want to do it now my baby is 5 months old. Very strange.

Other family members sat with me in the car think I am totally mad !

I went through a phase of wildly grabbing OH whilst still half asleep, convinced that he was ds and about to roll off the bed.

Think it's normal!!

Yep, me too. In fact I ripped the duvet cover because I thought he'd slipped inside. I also looked frantically for "all the other babies" the first night we came home with our one and only PFB.