cold turkey vs Ferberising

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So its 3.30 in the morning and my DD who is 6.5 months decides it time to play, she is unwell with a cold and is teething, and previously (on occasion) we have pandered to her and therefore helped to create the nightmare. We need to do something as DH and I are exhusted, we haven't had a full nights sleep yet. I wondered does anyone have any thoughts, advice, experiences, pros and cons of the methods above? I would be very grateful for any help.

Is she in her own cot?

Yes, shes been in it about 2 weeks, unfortunately because of some work that we have had to do in our bedroom we are all in the same room at the moment, but that should change next week.

I don't know what 'feberising' is I'm afraid but I'd suggest you try going back to a 'shush and return' type of approach once everyone's settled back in their own rooms. Make sure she has a nicely full tummy at bed-time and is well-relaxed with warm baths etc. Make sure her room is as dark as possible because stray light - especially in the early morning - can lead to waking. Make sure her bedcovers are still in place because they can wake if they get cold or uncomfortable. And if at 3am she's 'playing' (muttering, giggling, moving about) rather than 'crying' then you can safely leave her to it and she might self-settle if she gets no intervention or extra stimulation.

Finally... if you have a child that wakes at 3am regularly, would also suggest you go to bed yourself at 9pm a few nights a week. You can do remarkably well on six hours sleep.

Thanks, I meant ferberising which is basically controlled crying (I think).
Definitely doing a 9pm bedtime tonight

Watching with interest. DS is same age and wakes for BF every 3 hours at night. Totally exhausted.

I have tried pat/shush and it might work there and then but then next night we do it again as it doesn't seem to be a permanent change. He cried for 2 hours one night!

Going to put him in own room soon and hope it might work.

What time does dd go to bed, and does she nap in the evenings?
As previous post said, when she gets up for her 3am feed, just use the bare minimum of light needed, don't even speak to dd, just lift her and feed her calmly. Do long ssssssssh sounds while feeding so everything is calm and quiet. I agree too that she might settle herself if she's left. If she starts fussing and getting upset, try patting/stroking and shushing. Only lift her if she full-on cries, and again no interacting with her except calm shushing, then put her back down when she stops crying

She normally goes to bed between 6-7 anywhere in that range. Going to bed is normally not so bad and we normally get to 1am ish before she wakes then it is every two hours, sometimes she just wants a dummy and to go onto her side and she will go back to sleep, but other times like last night she thumps her legs down pushes against the cot rail (turning herself around) and if you havent gone to her by then she starts yelling out and then full on crying. I think she has never learnt to self sooth and get back to sleep on her own. Naps during the day only last 45mins sometimes longer if we are lucky, and we get about 3 a day (again if we are lucky)

Is it worth trying to keep her up a bit later so that she's properly tired? Eg if you gradually try to keep her up til 8pm, she may sleep even an extra hour, ie waking at 3am? Or make sure she doesn't nap any later than 2 or 3pm so she's tired by 6 or 7?
And to totally contradict what I've just said, she may be overtired so doesn't get a restful sleep and wakes up easily. In this case, regular or longer naps during the day are needed. Does she sleep in her buggy or in the car? Anything that can let her get a longer nap during the day. If you do this at the same time every day, she may start to get into the habit of a longer nap at that time?

Sorry, just trying to think of things that might work. It might be hit and miss till you find the right solution