help! how do I get a 14 month old sleeping in her own room?

[sweetkitty]

background DD is 14 months old, we coslept to 9 months but space/house issues has meant she has slept in a travel cot oin our room.

Put night goes like this - DD gets taken to bed at 8.30pm (this works for us as DP doesn't get home to 7 and wants to spend time with her) she goes down in her travel cot very easily usually with a few moans or nothing at all. She'll sleep through till about 3 or 4am when she wakes up crying and we bring her in with us.

But she is a nightmare now, she's so restless we get slapped, kicked rolled on etc the rest of the night.

Now we have moved she has her own room, I'm waiting for her furniture to arrive have bought her a cotbed, we've decorated it all for her so it feels like her room.

The problem is I need to get her to stay in her new cot all night, I'm due no 2 in January so need her sleeping on her own but need to do it soon so she feels she's not being thrown out our room.

Anyone had similar problems and how did you overcome them? Is controlled crying the only option?

meant our night goes like this

put her down stay with her for half an hour and reduce the time over a couple of weeks.

DS co-slept/slept in our room until about 11 mnths.

Originally we used controlled crying to get him to sleep in his cot in his own room. That took three nights.

But he was still waking in the night for a feed, and then not going back to sleep for ages, and like you say kicking, climbing all over us.... so one night we just left him in his cot when he woke up. We spoke to him and told him to go back to sleep, and left him to it. He went back to sleep within about half an hour, and we've never looked back since.

I find having him a grobag helps me to feel sure that he won't be cold having kicked all of his blankets off.

If we stay with him in the room for a while, it is just postponing the crying when we leave. He always moans for about 5 minutes, sometimes less, so that doesn't work for us.

2 suggestions:

1. babywhisper pick up put down method (gentle)
2. richard ferber's "solve your childrens sleep problems book" (more severe, but a gentle form of control crying)

can give more details if you need

I liked the baby whisperer pick up put down method. Took a few days but then she was happy. However my dd was about 4 months old when I did it so I don't know how well it will work for a 14 month old!

we did pu/pd up to a year, and Richard Ferber after a year

Think you are right. When dd was older and still waking in the night I did cc.

I have the baby whisperer book already, never did the EASY routine or anything I'm a bit hopeless at routine altogether.

I think it should be better as she can fall asleep on her own quite happily every night and sometimes when she wakes she can drop off herself it's just this waking in the night that we need to stop. I feel bad but I think the time has come for us all to have a decent nights sleep (well until DD2 is born)!

I never did the routine either, can't be arsed! But I did do that part when I wanted an evening back!