So a bit of background, DD is now a little over 8 months old. She never really liked sleeping in moses basket as a baby (tho she did eventually), she was very refluxy and didn?t really like being flat. The most she has ever ?slept through? is from about 10.30 ? 3.30. She will generally only fall asleep when feeding (on me) and will not take a dummy. She is EBF and we have been BLW since 6mo though her diet is a bit limited due to being (we suspect) dairy sensitive.
At about 6 months she flatly refused to go into basket. So then, for a few nights rather than her screaming the house down and none of us getting any sleep she came into bed with us. Two and a bit months on, she is still sleeping with us. Now we haven?t minded so much up until now but we are both getting to the point where we are beyond tired. She wakes every couple of hours during the night. She very rarely settles for DH so I have to feed her to sleep although I am sure it is more comfort sucking.
So our night goes something like this: 8.30 she starts getting agitated and starts to cry, so has a little feed on me to calm her down. 9.30 feed in bed, put her between us asleep. 10.30 wakes up screaming, DH tried to settle her usually doesnt work so i give her boob to settle. Ditto 2am, 4am, then DS wakes up at 5.30am which wakes her, give boob again. Eventually dozes back off until DH and DS come in to get ready for the day at 7.15. I then feed her and put her back in her cot with no trouble where she will sleep for a good couple of hours if we haven?t got to be out for nursery. This is the only reliable nap she has, she wont go down in the afternoon. Have tried cuddling her and putting her back down but she is having none of it and starts crying again. At the moment she is generally bit poorly - first tooth coming through, has a cold and bad ezcema on hands which is driving her mad scratching.
So come tell me what I am doing wrong and how we can make it better without her crying or being distressed (I know CC / CIO works great for some but I just cant do it). I would just like her not to need me to settle (esp before I go back to work) and for her to go into her own bed at night (at least for a few hours) before I drop from exhaustion. Or even to continue to cosleep without the constant waking and needing to feed. do we just wait until she is feeling better and hopes it improves by itself?
Everyone said I was making a rod for my own back and spoiling her which I ignored but maybe they were right after all ?
Sorry if that?s a bit long and jumbled but im very sleep deprived!