2.8 yr old coming into our bed every night

[rhinobaby]

Since the dentist told us DS2 could not suck his comforter 4 mths ago (and thus we removed it completely) he has woken every night any time between 10pm and 5am but usually around 1am and come to sleep with me/ us. He goes straight to sleep but disturbs us for the rest of the night due to bed hogging! Bed too small for 3 to sleep well so an adult will have to leave to sleep elsewhere. DS2 is very stubborn but am thinking we will have to try and crack this one this weekend. Will this work? Or do they grow out of it eventually. Any advice gratefully received

Put him back in his own bed if you don't want him in yours. Say 'goodnight' and leave. It's a nice (for him) habit he's got into so he might not be too happy about breaking it to start with. Be strong :)

Agreed, go for tough love or he will still be in your bed in six months' time!

I know I need to bite the bullet and be strong. Did it a year ago and he was fine by night 3. I'm going to go for it tonight.
(I'm not really a big wimp, but DS1 asleep in next room so don't want to disturb him.)

Good luck. It always feels mean when you're doing something they don't like for their/your own good but tell yourself it's 'character-building'!

Good luck! Just keep thinking of Monday/Tuesday night when all will be back to normal again!

I think it's harder this time as he's so much more verbal and a little person, so will take it really badly not being allowed into bed. But I agree, if I do nothing then nothing will change... we parents will remain sleep deprived/ never sharing a bed. At least he responds to bribery now . Thanks for the messages of support.

Enjoy it. In the blink of an eye he won't want to share a town with you neve mind a bed!

Ok, so he woke at 12.20am - put back to bed, took it well. Then 2.50am, put back to bed, spent the next hour saying 'I don't like it like that' but at least he wasn't crying. Evenetually fell asleep. Then 5.20am, put back to bed, a little upset but prob as exhausted as I was and went back to sleep til 6.30.
I will have to hope he learns to roll over and go back to sleep when he wakes up.
Yes, I know in years to come i will be begging my kids to get out of bed but it seems a long way off when you are trying to train them to stay in bed til at least 6am! Are boys worse than girls? All the mums I know with early risers seem to have boys.

Dd (4 and a hlf) still gets into our bed most nights. I leave her as i can't risk her waking the other 3 dc's. I'm hoping she'll grow out of it herself!

Well done rhinobaby, sounds like it went okay.

Fingers crossed for tonight. Stay strong!

I forgot to say earlier, but we got DD (2.5) out of the habit at the new year (took 3 nights). Last night she slept 8.30pm to 8am...a lie-in! Bliss! x