How 'normal' is it for a 16month old to have never slept through the night?

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I'm just wandering.....I'm starting to think she just can't!
I keep thinking i've reached my limit and the anywhere between 6 and occasional 2 wakings a night have to stop but I just can't bring myself to try CC..... or I make up my mind to try and then one of us gets ill and we can't.

Am I deluding myself that she'll just stop on her own? (i've had 18months in my head for some reason!)

I'm so tired I can't make any decisions about what to do for the best

My 26 month old dd2 still hasn't slept through the night, ever!

I am still breastfeeding her and co-sleeping and am getting fed up but I still can't summon the energy to sort it. It is a vicious circle.

Sorry, posted too soon.

Meant to ask if she wakes for a feed or a cuddle or just no reason?

I know what you mean about it never being the right time. I have made up my mind to sort it several times only to be thwarted by illness.

If I am honest I'd say I am scared by the upset it will take to fix it.

Oh no-don't tell me that twofornow

I'm still breastfeeding, and would be co sleeping but she moves around so much in her sleep...I wish I didn't have to get out of bed!

It's all new to me as DD1 slept through the night from 3 months (hardly slept at all before that though!). I don't get it as I've done nothing I can think of different this time. Do you think some babies just can't do it?

My DS didn't sleep through until past 2yrs.

Things improved greatly when we moved him into a bed at 23mths and he started creeping into our bed rather than crying out for us.

He is almost 5 now and whilst he has never been a wonderful sleeper (and still ends up in my bed about twice a week) it rarely causes any difficulties (except for the fact that I am about to have DC4 and want to cosleep - I will be starting a new thread)

I don't think you will get a realistic answer on Mumsnet, or any other forum, tbh. You will get a shedload of anecdotes, maybe.

Cross post!
She wakes for a feed.....well at least that is the only way I can get her back to sleep.
I think partly it's also to do with how much she moves in her sleep-a few times a night I think she wakes as she has got herself stuck.

I'm scared as well. It's so much harder now-she calls my name when she wakes-how could I leave her

I don't think I could ever do controlled crying either.

My dd1 was a terrible sleeper too although hers was caused by eczema and other health problems.

She only started to sleep through reliably at 3.6 so I don't hold out much hope that dd2 will do it anytime soon.

Agree with bibbitybobbity. My anecdote is DS1 didn't sleep through until 18 months, and woke up 2-6 times a night too. I was vehemently against CC and 18months for us was only the magical age as that was the absolute point where I just couldn't take it anymore and we sleep trained.

I do think it is possible for your 16mo to just get better on their own. or better enough to be bearable.

For me, when I reached the end of my limit I had nothing in the tank, had near misses in the car as I was so tired, I was crying every day on the verge or actually depressed and several friends and family and DH thought I was mad not to. I think the car incidents were one of themoments where I felt that not sleep training was worse than being so sleep deprived that I could've had an accident and hurt DS and/or me.

But each to their own in terms of what you can personally cope with.

I did find out that the babies from my NCT group that I thought were stellar sleepers actually weren't. Not that it was a competition just made me feel especially crap that I had the only non-sleeping baby at the time.

Good Luck with your decision and may the sleep be with you!

BTW....my DS1 now sleeps in until 8-9am!!! He might've got that way on his own eventually without sleep training...just the light at the end of the tunnel may be fabulous!!! Hope so for you too!