can not recommend this book highly enough!

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At 3 months my son woke on the hour every hour for a feed. I was at my wits end and decided i needed help. this book was amazing and by 4 months he was sleeping for 12 hours straight whatever time he went to bed. Any way though some of you might find it useful I'm not sure what i would have done without it.

GF? I would imagine the institute if midwifes (or whatever its called) have a fair idea about the anatomy of a baby and what there capable of at what stage, certainly more than i do.

I don't think midwives are specialists in how babies sleep tbh.

People aren't being defensive towards you best, just discussing the book and its implications. Its synopsis is very short, tells you nothing and makes some wild and inaccurate assertions. People will react to that.

I see nothing wrong with using whatever helps both a baby and its mother to get good sleep that's appropriate for them. And of course there's nothing at all wrong with learning a bit about babies when you have no idea.

I happen to know an awful lot about babies and sleep (but accept that you want to hear from other people, not me). I do dispute that what the book encourages is right with the limited information you have supplied. It thinks babies in the first few weeks should be sleeping through (wrong, though some babies will, the vast majority won't and shouldn't) and doesn't acknowledge the changing feeding/sleeping patterns of a child (just because a baby didn't feed at 3am last night, doesn't mean it doesn't need to tonight).

Gina Ford. She is a maternity nurse too.

I have used her methods quite successfully though I don't follow the routine religiously, but it doesn't work for all babies. My own ds didn't sleep through till around 8 months. He was never a 12 hour a night baby either.

I've looked after around 13 babies now so know how different they can be.

And a maternity nurse is just a nanny for babies not a medical term.

Sounds like another book to chuck on the bonfire.

Hear, hear ShowOfHands, I completely agree with you.

The thing is western society has recently found itself in a situation where what has only very recently become the cultural norm (expecting babies and young children to sleep long periods without waking) is at odds with the biological & evolutionary norm. Combine this cultural expectation with not living with/close by to extended families, the need and/or desire for both carers to return to employment and the decreasing age gap between siblings, and it becomes all too easy too see the lucrative nature of the baby sleep training industry.

Sleep deprivation is horrible, and each parent deals with it differently. What I don't like is the profit driven industry behind it that peddles inaccurate information in order to increase their bottom line. Cosmetic companies can tell you all sorts of fibs/make you feel insecure about your looks etc to make you splash the cash, but these are often very young babies we are talking about :( I feel sad that these books are changing the way we look after the youngest and most vulnerable members of our society, but I guess that's just the nature of the world we live in.

I didn't say midwifes were specialist in baby sleeping patters but maybe how long a baby can sleep is dependant on all sorts of thing like the capacity of there stomachs, bowls, bladders etc and how often they need to be filled, emptied? I expect they do know more about this than me. I could be wrong because i used it from 3 months but i don't think it suggests that a baby should sleep through eh night but i think it is possible to establish a routine early on so even if your baby is waking in the night at least they know it is the night and is there for a time to sleep and not to play etc. Like i said i had no idea how often my son needed feeding and while the book give me specifics but gave me the confidence not to feel i ha to feed him every time he woke up. And as proof of this often he just wanted singing to, tucking back up or a cuddle. Maybe The rest of you are all more adept at this and in which case don't need the book.

I was at my wits end when i read this book and needed help its as simple as that. The book also deals with children of 2 plus who cant sleep surly you take from it what you want.

sorry one more thing i do agree its a shame not just to let babies be babies and believe i am not a strict do it by the book mum in fact my son slept in with me untill he was almost two. Which is why i enjoyed this book. I just didn't feel that as a single parent i was able to look after my son the next day as well having had virtually no sleep. And NO im not saying that sleep deprived mums are shit, just me.

It is very difficult when you don't have support.

There is no denying that sleep deprivation is horrible.