10mo awake all night sleeping all morning, help!

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DS 10mo has never been a good sleeper.

He is BF apart from when I am at work when he has formula.

He has always been fed to sleep and -always- often ends up co-sleeping with us when he wakes in the night.

He tends to wake every 3/4 hours and I feed him back to sleep.

I have never just put in him in the cot and he is very hard to settle often an hour of shush/ patting.

But since me and DP both work shift work he tends to stay up till 1am before he will even begin to look tired and then he will sleep in till 10am and till 11 30 today!

This is really starting to mess things up with his meals and just getting out the house in the morning as he is just too tired and grumpy for breakfast.

Is this damaging for him and is there anyway I can get him to go to bed at a decent time?

Please help, I just don't know what to do!

what other naps does he have duing the day?/how many hours?

Rather than suddenly getting him up early, could you try shaving off a half hour everyday so that b y end of the week he's up at 7am? that shouldn't cause too much fuss.

I'm very big on routine...

He was having a lunch time one and an afternoon/ early eve one both an hour.

But today he napped about 3ish and again at 7ish.

I want to get him back into a decent routine but finding it hard with the hours I am working and DP will just lie in bed with him the whole morning if I am at work.

Just need the energy to do it, but we both have to be on the ball at work and he just doesn't sleep well at all really.

Feel like it's all my fault and have been too relaxed with DS.

not your fault, we can only do what we can - it's not as if you're neglecting him or anything, be easy on yourself. Young DC plus work are hard going.

I divide my DC (have done with both) day into 2 - 12 hour day and 12 hour night - obviously the edges and naps shift around depending on what's going on - but broadly speaking.

So eg. Aim to wake up at 7 am and put down to sleep at 7pm. At 10 months I would probably let your DS have a short nap (30 mins) at about 8.30ish just to refresh him as it's quite a long day. Then maybe a long lunch time nap (1ish hour) and a short late afternoon nap (30 mins - 45mins). Irrespective of how well/badly my DS may have slept at night, I will wake him up at a reasonable time to avoind the cycle.

Try shaving off the half hour each day at morning wake up until he's getting up at a reasonable time. If he's waking up at 11am it's no wonder he's not sleeping well at night and such a waste of a day too. Sounds like your partner isn't on the same page as you on this and would rather have his morning sleep though.