Where to put baby to sleep in evenings?

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DS is 9 weeks and I feel like we're just about able to start having a 'bedtime' in that I can feed him in the dark and he will drop off and I can put him in his crib in our room. Trouble is, I don't want to go to bed myself then and that means he is on his own until we do go to bed (maybe two hours later).

The SIDS guidelines say that baby should sleep in the room that you are in but he won't settle in his moses basket downstairs. At the moment I end up going to bed early or sitting in the room right next door instead of using the extra time to relax in the evenings.

What do you think? What do you do?

I put my baby to bed in our room and then join her later when I'm tired. She's now 14 weeks but we've been doing this since she was around 6 weeks or so. We put the monitor on and check her every now and again too.

Hope that helps, do whatever you're comfortable/happy with!

Put him in bed and make the most of your evenings - you're really lucky to have a baby that goes to bed earlier than you do, I say make the most of it!

Have you got a monitor? If you are really worried you could get one with a breathing sensor pad - we have one and I find it enormously reassuring, even though I do realise it doesn't mean the SIDS guidelines don't apply, IYSWIM!

I think what you're doing is fine (put him to bed upstaires on his own), with little babies I think most mums would be doing half hrly checks anyway (or maybe that was just me!!)

Definitely put him to bed and enjoy your evening.

I'm having the same dilemma with dd2. This wasn't ever an issue with the screaming banshee -that was dd1, but dd2 will quite happily feed and then go down.

I have been putting her upstairs with a moniter and checking often as she just doesn't settle the same downstairs.

I do worry though but I think that's part and parcel of motherhood!

Only recently started putting DD (5 months) to bed upstairs at 8ish and joining her at 10ish. I think the point of the SIDS advice is to ensure they do not sleep too deeply so if you check on them often (for us this is every 20 mins) and leave the door open so they can hear household noise then they are not really 'alone' so to speak.

We used to put DS in his bed in our room upstairs (when he would go) and we would leave the door open, and the door open to the living room downstairs so that the noises of us talking, the TV, sorting the kitchen etc would go up the stairs and he wasn't in silence.

Pram, our DS loves it

we do what alibaba does. TBH it never occurred to me not to - as soon as he wasn't able to sleep downstairs in the evening (was too noisy) he went to bed. TBH I'm so knackered it's usually only for an hour nd a half that he's on his own!

Thanks everyone. I can't leave the door open because we have cats and I don't want them in there. I think I'll just do it and then check up on him regularly.

I need to sort a monitor!

It is quite a novelty as in the day he will only sleep on me so those few hours in the evening are quite useful.