Ideas to help self settling please!!!

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Hi,

16 week old waking more and more frequently during night. Not sure what to do. How do I help her learn to settle herself. If she has slept about three hours then I just feed her. Issue is when she wakes after shorter period.At moment I put mobile on and leave her as first resort. If this doesn't work the next step is letting her suck my finger. Finally, if that doesn't work I'll feed her.

Confused because told not to leave baby of that age to cry for more than 10 minutes, but also told that I should leave her to get herself back off - NOT COMPATIBLE!!!

Any thoughts greatly appreciated.

4 month sleep regression. It's totally normal, happens loads and it really really really hard to deal with.

She's tiny and is waking for a reason... does she have a dummy?

Who on earth told you that a 16wo could self-settle?

(sorry, I realise the tone of my post is slightly arsey, it's not meant like that, I promise)

Please please don't leave your baby to cry for 10 mins if you can just cuddle her?

Agreed - way too early. Hard though it is. It is very normal

I feel your pain honestly, DS has been the same for a while now. Sometimes he will settle himself down again but mostly not. sometimes a dummy works, sometimes only a (very brief) feed works.

Thanks guys - so stressed about being told by HV that shouldn't cuddle, rock, feed, allow to suck back to sleep because that will form bad habits but at same time shouldn't just leave her!?! AAAGH!

Is basic consensus that I can feed her without her 'learning' that she can wake when she wants and I'll come running?

Yes, that's the consensus!

No harm will come, she will grow out of it.