Pick Up/ Put Down - am I doing it right?

[SiameseSnowCat]

DD is 10months old, and since friday we have been doing pu/pd to drop the middle of the night feed.

Before, she would go to bed at 6.30 (fed to sleep), wake at 11 or so, be fed, settle quickly, wake at 3, be fed, settle quickly or stay awake for an hour! and then wake at 6 or 7am.

as an aside, so also seems to be dropping her morning nap.
m. This happened exactly the same last night.

Am I doing pu/pd correctly? When she stands, I put her down, when she cries without standing I put my hand on her and she seems to be calmed. But I am putting my hand on her all the time when she is laying down but not asleep, which means Im there for an hour or more until she sleeps. This meant on friday and last night, at the 3ish wake up, I was with her for over an hour. She isnt crying, just awake, and sometimes seems to be going off but then gets up or starts singing.

Should I be touching her the whole time? If I move my hand early, she gets up again.. It seems at the moment that things are actually worse this way than if I feed her.

(also do you think I should drop the dream feed too?)

thanks

whoops - ignore the errant sentence after 'nap' !

That's a good sign if DD is calming down fairly quickly and without much PUPD. I'd think that you could use your hand to calm and, once calm, to remove it in the same way that you would 'put down' as soon as the baby is calm, rather than asleep in your arms. In this way, you are teaching the baby to fall asleep on their own without your help. If your baby is chatting, etc, I would walk out of the room and go back in again if crying, say your phrase, use your hand then repeat. It might take longer in the short term but should hopefully mean that in a few days she will be able to put herself back to sleep quicker on her own. Let me know how it goes though as we still sometimes do a night feed and it seems difficult to phase out!

Initially, when we started PUPD I had to stay with my DD until properly asleep, but she didn't seem to notice 'me' iykwim, just needed the reassurance of my hand on her tummy. Now I do walk in walk out as she becomes more wakeful if she spots me and thinks it's time to play. She seems to drop off quicker if I'm not there.