DS 23 months old will not sleep any more!!!

[Tiger1]

Please help. My son has stopped going to sleep at night. We tire him out during the day and he is knackered by bed time. He is climbing into bed he is that tired when he goes up stairs. He falls asleep for 10 mins, then he wakes up again and starts kicking the cot, or banging, sreaming laughing really loudly. he wakes up our 7 month old and it is very hard to get her back to sleep. He does this for 3 hours until he wears himselft out again..

We have tried so many tactics, like taking away his toys, dummy, ignoring, cuddles etc. I try naughty corner but he does not understand what i am saying yet. Only understands objects, still.
He also does not speak yet.

What more can we do ?

I wouldn't mind betting that he does understand most of what you say to him!
I would say leave him be once he's in bed and do controlled crying. We go through stages like this and it's the only way that works (even though I don't like it!!).
Is it possible that he's too tired when he goes to bed - is he napping ok in the day? Maybe he needs to go to bed a little earlier?
I wouldn't suggest naughty corner at bedtime or taking away toys or dummy. Just ignore the bad behaviour and when he sees it isn't getting him anywhere he should (might!) stop.

Perhaps you have to realise that you have a boisterous boy who has the endurence of an Ox! My SIL has a ds 2years old like this and he goes at a hell for leather pace my dd would faint at - they are 3 months age difference.

What time does he go to bed? Does he sleep during the day?

If he's very active during the day and totally knackered at bedtime then he's too tired to go to sleep, IYSWIM. Put bedtime back by 30 mins and start your wind-down routine. use a chart to let your DS know what is coming next. Low voices, low lights etc etc. So, by the time he's in bed, he's calm.

For example:

6:15pm - tidy toys
6:25pm - brush teeth
6:30pm - bath (no hysteria; quiet play)
6:45pm - out of bath, dry off, PJs on
7pm - 2 stories
7:15pm - sleep

They cover this really well in all parenting books. The key seems to be an early start for bed with a routine that never wavers.

So dont they need a nap in the afternoon? My 21 month ds did the same (refuse to sleep at night) so I am not putting him to sleep during the day but he become very tired in the early evenings and me too.

Thanks all. In response so far.

He has alsways napped in the mornings only at about 10.30ish. So i stopped it thinking that maybe this was affecting night time. But it wasn't.
His bed time routine is just as you describe it with the set times and pattern apart from he will not be quite of calm. No matter how you try it. He then falls asleep for 10 mins and is awake again.

At night he is not crying just doing the things i have siad previously. I never go to him unless he disturbs my dd2. But it still goes on for about 2-3 hours.

I too have said that he is very boisterous but becuase i do not know anyone personally who has a child like mine it is always hard for me alone to figure out what to do next.

This is so hard, when you do not have any friends in the same boat as you. I also have found that most people are having girls only. I do keep telling them that boys are a lot worst.

Whats the saying ? You do not know what it is like to have a boy until you have one yourself. Or something like that...