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CC help pls - do you go in if they are not full on crying but yelling?

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curlyLJ · 13/01/2011 20:32

Night 2 and it has been almost an hour so far...

DD is yelling, not crying - 3 yells then it goes quiet for 10 seconds or so. It seems to get louder after I have been in to lay her down/reassure her. Should I go in if it is protest yelling and not actual crying???

Oh God I hate this....Sad

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Hardandsleazy · 13/01/2011 20:34

How old is she?

Hardandsleazy · 13/01/2011 20:36

And no I would not go in- asked age as dd has had phases (and would imagine continue to til she is grown) if she seemed less distressed and more annoyed.

Hardandsleazy · 13/01/2011 20:37

And I know it's hard but at 16 months of cuddling to sleep it did work

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curlyLJ · 13/01/2011 20:38

she is 10m. Her sleep has been horrendous these last couple of months. I need this to work.

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Hardandsleazy · 13/01/2011 20:47

Tricky age- I should have done it earlier so sympathy. Am assuming she is otherwise well, no changes etc- wine/tv helped me tune out the sounds a little. Or you can do the leave it so long, don't pick her up/ reassure then go out an keep going in at intervals- i found that worked ok too.

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curlyLJ · 13/01/2011 22:21

it's been nearly 3 hours now and she is still not asleep. It is varying between yelling, whinging and intemittent crying.

I have been going in, mainly to lay her down, but it seems to make her worse when I do...

At what point do you give up?

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coldtits · 13/01/2011 22:26

No. Don't go in. the gaps between the cries mean she is tired. the fact that she's yelling more after you go in mean (IMHO) that she got her hopes up when you walked in, and was SO angry when you walked out again.

Ds1 did this. he actually needed to be left alone to settle. Every time I went in he got worse/

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curlyLJ · 14/01/2011 08:34

Well, it worked in the end, but the night was sh*t. SHe eventually went to sleep at 10.25 after 3 hours but woke at 2.15am and didn't go back to sleep until 4.45 (using the same method). I am now more shattered than I was before Sad

THink we are going to have to re-thyink things, this CC isn't working because DD can't lay herself back down and my gong in to lay her down makes her cry more = vicious circle.

Any ideas anyone?

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Pumpster · 14/01/2011 08:40

Have you tried one of those grow bag things?
I sympathise, only just got my 19 month old sorted in the sleep department. She was best just left as also got angrier with the visits!

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curlyLJ · 14/01/2011 08:45

She is in a grobag, but can still stand!
Could your DD lay herself down again though Pumpster? That is I think where we have the problem...

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Chil1234 · 14/01/2011 11:56

I think yelling = leave alone. They're not distressed, in pain, cold, hungry or anything - it's just what I call 'making a noise' to attract your attention. They lie down eventually because they're knackered.

containher · 14/01/2011 16:05

Def don't go in , for some babies- going in to reassure helps,but as you are experiencing, many are just plain furious that you have the audacity to leave them again- it prolongs the agony and prolongs the method- and if you go in, she will just cry for longer, harder and louder as eventually she know you will go in. She will learn very quickly to lie back down herself if she is left. If you keep popping in, it just confuses the issue. ( it does work with some with the gentler approach- but not with your one- so leave her, should take about 3-4 nights and you will see a big improvement if she is left.If you feel you can't leave her to cry- then C.C isn't for you.

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curlyLJ · 14/01/2011 17:31

Thanks COntainher do you mean don't go in at all, from the moment we lay her down after her milk and say 'night night'?
It feels really mean, but I will do it if it will work. I am desperate. I don't think i even got 4 hours sleep last night.

I think I also made a mistake by brining her into me when she woke again at 6am - just to get one more hour or so... Has that scuppered all the hard work I put in for the 2 long stints last night?

ALso, should I just not feed her at all? SHe has been taking a BF later and later - which is now usually around 4am (on a good night). Should I just stop this completely now? Will it help with the sleep training?

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Bandersnatch · 18/01/2011 08:07

curly - how is it going? Just wanted to say stick at it if you can. We've just done CC with our 10m DS out of sheer desperation and we've seen real differences. It's horrible but I now feel more human than I have in months. May be too late for advice but I'd use this opp to nightwean if you are confident she is eating well in the day. Less confusing if you treat every wake up the same IYSWIM. Good luck!

seeker · 18/01/2011 08:21

"it's just what I call 'making a noise' to attract your attention. "

And perish the thought that they could possibly want your attention........

Chil1234 · 18/01/2011 09:07

@seeker... that's a nasty remark. Children do not always need their parents attention just because they're making some kind of noise.

seeker · 18/01/2011 09:41

No it wasn;t a nast remark - it was a factual one.

A 10 month old yelling for 3 hours obviously needs something - and there is nothing at all wrong with wanting attention.

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