Help me convince dh not to move ds from cot to a bed

[TracyK]

We have a borrowed cot that will need to be returned in Dec/Jan time. ds will be 20mo by then.
we have a bed ready for ds but he just loves his little cot so much - I'm loathe to try him in a bed.
I know my dh doesn't want to spend the money on a new cot for prob only 6-8 months of use. But surely if we bought one off ebay it wouldn't cost that much.

We put dd1 in a bed at 16 months (the cot was needed for her little sister!). So perhaps I'm not the best person to advise. But what is it you think he likes about his cot? He may love the bed just as much - dd did.

Have you tried him in his bed? My dd loved her cotbed and eventually transferred into a proper single when she was nearly 3 (new ds needed the cot!). I don't think she would have been any good in a bed earlier as she slept all over the place and would definitely have fallen out. You could emphasis the safety angle...
Of course, they will always get used to a bed if you persevere and pad the floor. You could always buy one of those bed guards - they would probably make the bed seem a bit cosier and enclosed as well. It does seem a bit of a waste buying a new cot for such a short time doesn't it - perhaps he would love a bed just a much.

DON'T PUT HIM IN A BED IF YOU CAN AVOID IT.

DS went into a bed because he started climbing out of his cot at 18 months, and slightly because I thought he might start getting up and amusing himself in the morning... HA! (haven't admitted that to anyone else). 2.5 months later he will still not stay in it when awake - we are trying to get him to go to sleep without us and it's a nightmare - in the night either I have to go in with him or he comes in with us, as I am too knackered to sort the night time out as well as the going to bed thing yet.

All this, and throughout his time in his cot until almost the very end we would put him down, he would turn over, snuggle up with his monkey and drop off to sleep all by himself.

DON'T DO IT.

I'm putting off the transfer for as long as possible - hopefully until she's night time potty training and that won't be for a while yet.

She climbed out . . . once. She was in her GroBag. Have no idea how she managed to swing her leg over, but she has long legs and is quite tall for her age. Anyhow, no real harm was done, and she never tried it again.

Can you borrow a cot? We are using one that's only 2 years old from a friend for this new baby - just buying a new mattress and sheets for it.

They have the rest of their lives to get in and out of a bed. Put it off as long as possible!

Again, not best person to advise, my DS (18mths)went into a bed (with bed guard)at 12mths and has slept far better (although getting him down for his afternoon nap is difficult) at nighttime he stays in his bed and in the morning he does too (altho for a very short time)...we only had a normal size cot and Ds is a large boy who, like me, fidgets a lot in his sleep, we were fed up of him waking up as he was banging into the cot sides...

Just tell DH that he can get up every time he gets out of bed, seriously.

Acnebride - what, ever?

We moved dd to a bed at 20 months and she was fine - she loved her cot, too, but she was just getting far too big for it. She was a good sleeper in her cot, and this continued once she went into her bed - we had no problems with her at all.

If he sleeps well in his cot, there's every chance he'll be the same in his bed, and I tend to agree with your dh - it seems a shame to spend money on a cot that you'll only be using for a few months.

I'm with your DH too - it does seem a waste of money.

DD went into a bed at about 18 months (her choice, made the mistake of setting the bed up in her room to make sure it was all there, and she refused to get back in the cot) - she has a gate on her door so that she can't just wander in to us. She sleeps sooo much better than she ever did in the cot.

To be fair though, she was never one to wake up and play in the cot, always wake up and yell for me

Ds is 2 and a half and is still in his cot. Lots of my friends wee ones stayed in until nearer 3. If he's sleeping well in a cot I'd try and borrow one and postpone the bed for a while.

TRACYk if he is a good sleeper and goes to bed easily then it shouldntbe a problem, but there comes at stage where they go off to bed and get up again, delaying tactics, so even if is in a cot this could mean calling for \U 10 times! my ds is typing 1too!
urrghh

TraceyK don't know where you are located but if you are anywhere near London (SW) we have a dismantled cot in our bedroom which you could have for £30 (includes matress).

BTW Left ds2 in his cot till he was almost 3 as he loved it so much and it really worked for us.

Dont geddit...what's wrong with beds? They can jump out of cots by 18 months anyway so a bed is safer surely

TracyK - I wouldn't put a 20mo in a bed either, but i bought a Mamas & Papas cot bed (didn't cost that much about £150 - but you can buy them second hand) which is suitable up to 7 years! DD slept in that as a cot until she was about 2 1/2, then a cot bed and she was 5 when she went into a "big" bed because we needed it for DS!

I think the transition from cot to bed was much easier as it was the same piece of furniture, without the side bars.

with a guard of course

This will convince....

we put ds in a toddler bed, 6 inches off the floor, at 22 months.

I was woken at 2 in the morning on his second night in the bed. He had fallen out, and landed on his face, on the carpeted floor.

he was gouting blood so fast from his nose that I called an ambulance, and it took them 45 minutes to stop the bleeding...

So, at 2.5 he is still in his cot, and will be until he is potty trained at night.

Totally true, that ought to convince your dp.

My ds went into a cabin bed at 15 mo. and dd went into a regular bed at 20 mo. They slept much better and we preferred it because it meant that we could lie next to them and cuddle while reading them their bedtime stories. They were both toilet trained before 2 so it was helpful to have them in a bed early.

ds has never tried to climb out of his cot - in or out of gro bag. He does, however, bounce around and carry on a bit if he's not quite tired enough to fall straight asleep. So it's ok in a cot as he can't escape - but I dread to think what he'd do if he was in a bed.
I think I shall stick to my guns and either borrow one or buy a cheapy one off ebay. At least until he is at the stage of getting bed time stories read to him - as you say is nice to snugle with them. But he has a couch in his bedroom that we sit on at the mo.

DD is staying in her cot until she leaves home
Seriously ... We put DS in a bed at the age of just 2 when he could climb out of his cot. We thought we had sleep problems already but a bed made it a hundred times worse. He is nearly 6 and will still only go to bed without a fuss when he is ready to drop and has only recently stopped pi$$ing about in the middle of the night. He still jumps out of bed the moment his eyes open (regardless what time it is) and expects everyone else to get up with him
I blame the bed ...
A week ago we put him in a bunk bed and he is miraculously sleeping better ... and what does the bunk bed have? Bars to stop him falling out!!!
DD is 20 months and will stay in a gro bag until she is at least 3 and will stay in her cot till then too

yes FOR EVER lol

well, anyway, until the kid seems not so happy in a cot!!