Nightmare 9 month sleep regression

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My DD has never been a good sleeper, 4 month sleep regression was horrendous, but a few weeks ago, at about 8 and a half months she started going 7-6. Bliss. Until a day after she turned 9 months and now it's horrendous again. I can cope with her being up/awake but I just wanted to check if anyone else finds their baby cries/screams as they go through this? This happened at 4 months too. She has had Calpol / Calprofen to rule out teething but for the last 2 hours she has been screaming on and off and rolling around madly in her cot. Last time I went in she had her bum in the air mid-crawling motion. She is trying to crawl / pull up and cruise during the day. Have I got this to look forward to every night until she achieves it?

I feel your pain. (see my other post about CC and DC standing in cot!)

My DD is 10m in a few days and it has been horrendous since November with an odd few decent nights/weeks in between. Pretty much as you describe. I can't take it any more

I know CC/sleep training apparently doesn't always work during sleep regressions but I have to try something...

She has been crying/moaning/shouting since before 8pm and is still going. Boy they have some stamina huh?

Just wanted you to know you are not alone

Thanks. She's still going. Makes no difference whether I hold her / rock her / stroke her hair. I can't do many more nights of this. It sounds as though she is being tortured. I am terrified what the neighbours think. I have never left her to cry but I can't listen to this for hours when nothing works.

No one tells you about this stuff before you have a baby...

Hi, i'm a long time lurker, first time poster! Felt compelled to reply to you FlapFlapFlap as my 9 month old son is EXACTLY the same, it could have been me writing that post!

He turned 9months on monday and nights since then have been hideous, just as you describe, the hellish screaming, rolling etc etc. Holding him makes no difference, calpol/brufen seems to make no difference. Only thing that will eventually settle him is feeding to sleep (he's breastfed),that is when he draws breath from screaming for long enough to latch on. Feeding to sleep is a habit I'd kicked just after 6 months and really don't want to get back into it....but at the moment it's the only thing that works to settle him.

Like you, any advice will be greatly received. Sorry I have no wisdom for you, just great empathy :)

Glad to hear it's not just me. I knew babies had developmental wakenings / sleep regressions but I never imagined the screaming that would accompany them. It is awful, especially when nothing works. I stopped breastfeeding just before Christmas so don't even have that trick up my sleeve any more!

Hi, I just came on here to post that my 8 and a half month baby has gone loopy for the last few nights!

I've been trying to feed her back to sleep but she is doing bizarre things like pulling her hair, flailing her limbs about and scratching her ears!?

In desperation, I just tried a spoon of calpol which I then split all over both of us resulting in a double pj change!

She is now sat next to me on the sofa - wide awake

I am soooo tired

Just had this recently with DS who will be 9 months this week. He started waking up at 5am really unhappy, crying, banging around in the cot etc, couldn't find any way of resettling him. Before that he used to fairly reliably sleep until 630/645. By trial and error, we worked out that he was hungry so we're now giving him a bigger tea (mostly finger food so it keeps him interested when he's tired), he then has a bedtime bottle and (fingers crossed) is back to waking up later. It's worth a try :)

Me too. joining in with sympathy...

my baby was a dream sleeper the first six months. month 6 and 7 were pretty bad hit and miss. then month 8 was great. I night weaned, she slept great, I though I cracked it....

10 days into being 9 months and she is up again, and again and again... screaming when she wakes up! I am eventually able to settle her with cuddling... but another hour or 2 and she is at it again. She also thrashes about, twists her body, want dummy, then spits dummy...and sometimes is wide awake at 3 am!

I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!

I even tried bringing her in bed with me but it did'nt help, she still woke screaming... maybe a few times less, but hard to tell...

Anyone else try co sleeping? How do you all settle them?

My son was all scream-y again last night, I eventually brought him into bed with me (husband away for the weekend so did this for my sanity) and he went to sleep in seconds. This is the first time he's been in our bed since those newborn days when we used it as a last resort.

Thinking he may have some separation anxiety.......don't want to get into habit of brining him in, although it seems a nice easy option in the short term. God this is hard!

I usually end up bringing DD in with us at about 3am (i.e when I cannot face sitting in the dark in her room trying to settle for the 10th time)

Hmm. I have tried bringing her into our bed but it hasn't made much difference - she just cries in there instead.

Me too! I seem to bringing baby in bed around 4 am...when she seems really awake and or I just cant deal anymore.

But I sometimes feel guilty, like I am doing something wrong. I don't want to be like my friend who still has her 4 year old in bed... sex is too important to me.

I rationalise it by saying she is in cot for 3/4 of the night so its ok.

This IS hard! No body told me the whole first year would be about managing sleep and lack of it...I always thought it was just the beginning weeks when they fed all night.

queenballerina I know, it's so hard!

DH said this morning that he misses morning sex (that's when we always used to do it). We now have to do it at bedtime before baby has joined us, but TBH we're usually too knackered! And I'd quite like to conceive number 2 this year (must be mad!)

I'm clinging to the fact that all babies sleep through eventually but then there are loads of threads on here with toddlers who are still up x times a night. Arrgghh!

My almost 10 month old was kind of like that for a while. Crying if she was put down, picked up, crying in the cot, out of the cot etc etc. Nothing seemed to work although I could feed her back to sleep sometimes. No advice I'm afraid except it did eventually pass.

these past few nights have been so tough. My DD is nearly 9 months, she has been so good at going to sleep previously, with bath at 6.30 then bf, she would always be asleep by 7.15. Last night was so upsetting, she was screaming, and just wouldn't settle. Her teeth are on their way, so DH and I tried a bit of calpol, but she got more upset, and screamed until she was sick. She finally went to sleep around 9.30.

Then tonight we had the same, except thankfully she wasn't sick. She just did not want to be alone.

It is so hard, when you try everything, and nothing works... It's very disheartening :-(

I think separation anxiety is a large part of it, which seems odd as my DD screamed when we were with her too, but I think it was continuing anxiety from when she realised she was alone in the cot. We actually moved into her room for a while on a mattress on the floor for a while which definitely helped. Back in our own room now - nothing is forever it seems.