how do you manage sex when your child won't sleep, or co-sleeps?

[CharlotteBronteSaurus]

dd2 is 10 weeks, and only sleeps on one of us. we get around this by co-sleeping. on the very rare occasions i manage to put her in the moses basket, either she wakes after 30 mins, or i pass out with tiredness.

at some point i am going to want to get our sex life off the ground again. am i missing something or will we just have to wait until she improves. cos sometimes that takes years, i believe.....

Good question, watching with interest. Not telling you how old DD is as will depress you.

Have read in the past that taking opportunities when they are being taken for a walk by grandparent or similar is one option, and if they go to sleep in your bed (but alone, and before you do) be creative about location.

Neither of the above are options for us at the moment, so I am just waiting for her sleep to get better.

sorry to hear you're facing the same issues, although i feel comforted to know we're not alone. I keep reading threads where people are wondering if they are pg whilst bfing a new baby, and I am and that they manage to get the opportunity so quickly.

Both times not until they were 5 - 6 months old and having a daytime nap reliably. (In DD2's case, she was in the pram in the garden, I remember...) Sorry - not what you want to hear. Though I was too knackered to care much.

i sort of know what you mean about being too knackered to care - i think if i were to chance upon a good couple of hours without dd2 attached to me then sleep would probably be the first thing i'd think of doing.

She's 10 weeks - she won't notice if you have sex while she's in the room! :)

At 10 weeks post birth you want sex??????

Dd is 7 and I'm just starting to fancy the odd shag (as long as it's nothing too strenous or imaginative or long or anything involving being bendy)

While they are v young, if they are asleep its OK, once they are a few months older the sofa is back as a good place to start as they may sleep for more than 20 minutes.

When DD started nursery I can remember how we spent that morning......

just don't tell your RL friends what you do with a baby in the room, they don't tend to understand unless they cosleep too

nooo, i am far too repressed to get it on with her in the room. i won't even do it in front of the cat.

and she is the noisiest sleeper when she does finally drift off. i am sure all the grunting and hooting (yes, she hoots ) would be far too off-putting.

Sex - what's that? Is funny but felt really sexy after DD was born but now - 23 months later, I'm beginning to wonder if I'll ever feel like it again,

DD2? So presumably you have a first child... what did you do with the first one?

Mine (luckily) have all been good sleepers, but I did have them in the room with me for the first 6 months (12 months in the case of the third).

We managed sex when they were in the cot, you don't have to swing from the lightshades, you can be discreet, even if the little one won't notice.

Really, if you are that desperate, it isn't going to last that long and you can listen to the baby cry for two or three minutes surely!