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It's been horrible (CC with 23 month old) but appears to be working

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Smartieismycat · 09/01/2011 19:47

Third night of CC now - using the walk in/walk out, rubbing DDs back etc. She took 25 minutes to settle, was 40 minutes Sat and 50 minutes Friday. I know we have to stick at it. Thanks for all your advice, I may be back tho.

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gummymum · 09/01/2011 20:35

Well done, keep at it.

hellymelly · 09/01/2011 20:38

Why do you have to stick at it if its so horrible? Isn't that telling you something?

CabbagefromaBaby · 09/01/2011 20:40

I fail to understand why people do this.

I'm sorry OP.

I think it just teaches children to give up.

CabbagefromaBaby · 09/01/2011 20:44

I should say that I am sure you only want what is best for your child, and love them dearly, and you have considered this carefully,

but if something is horrible...well why do it?

notonmywatch · 09/01/2011 20:47

For goodness sake, give the OP a break.

fifitot · 09/01/2011 20:48

Well maybe the OP thinks about short term pain for long term gain? Granted its not everyone's cup of tea and really don't want to start a row about it but sometimes parents just can't wait it out for their child to start sleeping. Maybe the OP is on her last legs, maybe the whole family is suffering? Maybe she thinks that while the child doesn't like it at the time, he will benefit from sleeping better once he's been helped to do it?

I am not an advocate of cc btw, still undecided but for some families I think it has its place. I bet it was the last option for the OP.

Panzee · 09/01/2011 20:50

I've been doing it with my 18 month old. It's a lot less painful than I was expecting. He doesn't cry constantly and so far has settled instantly when I go in.

CabbagefromaBaby · 09/01/2011 20:51

I'm sure all that is the case Fifitot but the title of the thread came across as ambivalent and very unhappy.

I wasn't sure what to say. Support the OP for doing something her head tells her is a good thing (and maybe other people have told her to do? who knows, it isn't clear) or say, well, it's Ok not to do it if it makes you unhappy?

It isn't clear what is the required answer iyswim.

baabaapinksheep · 09/01/2011 20:56

cabbage - if you're not sure what to say, then don't say anything!

Well done OP, you're doing great!! :)

CabbagefromaBaby · 09/01/2011 20:56

Right.

fifitot · 09/01/2011 20:57

I'm not having a go at anyone Cabbage. Your reply to her wasreasonable, I was just posting a general response as considering cc myself at the moment. So a bit touchy about it! (6m of no sleep to blame!)

I think cc would make a person feel horrible. I think the OP was updating from another thread.

CabbagefromaBaby · 09/01/2011 20:59

No no I understand that Fifi - neither was I. Though my initial post was tactless.

that's why I tried to modify it in the second one iyswim.

Good luck with your little one.

fifitot · 09/01/2011 21:02

Thanks - I need it!

Giddyup · 09/01/2011 21:19

I expect you will have a happy sleeping child within a week. It makes such a difference to the whole household when everyone is content and well rested

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Smartieismycat · 10/01/2011 14:30

Hi everyone - I really was at my last legs. I've got glandular fever and was having all the blood tests under the sun because I felt so rubbish. Luckily I'm healthy aside from the GF - found out today.
It was horrible last night because my DD is crying, even though it wasn't her 'worst' cry it's never nice.
On the plus side DD hasn't woken up in the middle of the night since doing this ( and 3 nights in our household a record) and that's been the major thing as we rarely get an unbroken night's sleep.
I really, really didn't want to do CC - but we have now and it seems to be working.
I don't know what else to do, I do feel a bad mum; I work full time and have walked around like a zombie for the last few months and I have no choice but to do FT as OH made redundant. Would love to stay at home and be able to cuddle DD in middle of night, or hold her hand till she falls asleep.
I've been as gentle as I can for nearly 2 years, surely that has to count for something. She's a lovely happy little girl, hugs and cuddles everyone - and even more so yesterday and this morning.
If anyone knows of a better way - please tell me

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fifitot · 10/01/2011 15:41

Don't beat yourself up OP! God waiting to do something until baby was 2 is a long time. CC has turned out to be a solution for your family so don't feel bad. People are very anti-cc but at the end of the day you need to be functioning for your kids. A few nights crying so that you can stop being ill and be less of a zombie.

Of course being gentle for 2 years counts. God I'm considering cc at only 6 months due to the havoc DH is causing us - bless him though! Your DD will be fine.

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Smartieismycat · 10/01/2011 15:52

fifitot - maybe a while back I would have been anti CC, but it seems to be recommended by a lot of health professionals (not that they've served me and DD well in the past). I am explaining to DD why I'm doing it. My only wish is that she had a favourite toy/teddy I could put in her cot with her. Her favourite toy is myself and OH

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Smartieismycat · 10/01/2011 19:16

Have to say tonight (Monday - fourth night we've done CC) my DD is moaning more than crying. OH is going in every five minutes to comfort her. Surely that can't be too bad? She is just asking for mummy a lot

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Smartieismycat · 13/01/2011 14:28

I am keeping up the CC - was about to waiver last night. Texted my sister for support, she told me her 9 YO DD was a nightmare to get to sleep (of course not being parent then I don't remember). They did the pick up put down routine on her and they did have to let her cry. She is now very independent, well-mannered nine year old, who sleeps very well.
She's a delightful child and my sister had to do the whole CC thing on her for nearly two weeks when she was about my DD's age.

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WishIWasRimaHorton · 13/01/2011 14:33

it is a horrible thing to do at the time. it broke my heart to do it with my DS when he was nearly 2 and it took 3 or 4 nights (each time 10 mins less than the night before). he then reverted the following week and we had to do it again for 2 nights. and nothing since.

he is now 4 and i haven't had a peep out of him at night since then - loves his bed and can't wait to get into it.

but it is hell to do at the time. you are very nearly there, so keep going.

i wouldn't hesitate to do it with DD if needed (she is 22 months). i know it is controversial, but it worked for us and i am grateful for that.

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Smartieismycat · 13/01/2011 15:48

Hi RimaHorton, thank you. I think DD is old enough, I wouldn't have liked to do this if she was any younger.

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ipredicttrouble · 13/01/2011 17:14

CC is working for us.

DD now goes in the cot awake (night time & naps) and will usually drop off within about 5-10 mins of crying.

Also, this isn't an hysterical type cry, more level IYSWIM.

She is also sleeping through the night too - could be a coincidence though.

I've probably jinxed it now and set myself up for an horrendous night

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Smartieismycat · 13/01/2011 17:28

DD has slept through night too since we have been CC-ing. I knew there was a connection - which is why we've resorted to it, too many disturbed nights - like you ipredict cry is not hysterical, - annoyed and angry at times tho

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WishIWasRimaHorton · 13/01/2011 20:27

smartie and ipredict - well done you. it is such a hard thing to do, so well done to you for making the decision and seeing it through. fingers crossed to sleeping children!

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Smartieismycat · 14/01/2011 19:25

yes, DD is still crying tonight, but not so hysterical.
Also noticed during the day she has been less clingy, just as cuddly but not following me round so much.

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