Is 10mo too late for sleep training?

[BusyMissIzzy]

10mo DD has always been fed or cuddled to sleep. She used to sleep through (10pm till 7amish), but that stopped at about 6 or 7mo when her teeth started coming in. At the moment she wakes once or twice most nights; sometimes goes back down after a cuddle, sometimes comes into our bed, and very occasionally needs a bottle.
Ideally I'd like her to a) be put down awake when she's tired and fall alseep on her own, b) maybe go to bed earlier and c) sleep through, obviously (wouldn't we all?)

Have I missed the boat as far as sleep training is concerned? Any insight/advice would be much appreciated.

Such a timely thread. My DS will be 10mo next week and, with heavy heart, we're starting cc tonight. He's never been a great sleeper - had a goodish bit between 6-8 months- but in the last six weeks has gone awful. Bedtime battles and then waking four times a night with often hour plus (sometimes 2) settles in the night. I know it might improve post
Regression but can't wait that long- my PND is returning, DS has dark circles, my boobs feel like second hand rags and DH and I are arguing about it (sleep not the boobs..) Cosleeping doesn't work for DS or DH and PUPD winds him up. So CC it is. Dreading it. Especially with the standing up (although he can get back down).

Wishing all of those sleep training currently luck and those who are waiting it out, hope sleeps comes super quick.

Best of luck Bandersnatch, I hope it woks for you.

Gah, works even.

Bump. How's everyone doing?

My ds is 9m, think we're going to have to do some sleep training soon. He's been awful at sleeping since birth & now his daytime naps have gone to pot. I did cc for an hour yesterday for his nap before giving up and walking him in the pram for ages before he dropped off - for 3 hours! He usually falls asleep on the boob and transfers to the cot fine but now screams as soon as I lean over it to put him down. Me and dh are at our wits end with him. Also have 3yo dd so no rest if he does nap in the day

hi busy - how is your lo doing?

don't want to tempt fate by writing this, but ds2 sleep is much much improved. most nights he sleeps now from 7pm (at the latest) until 5am or sometimes 6am. through a combination of staging (1) stopping feeding at night and cuddling to sleep (2) cc.

ow, we are trying to encourage him to go back to bed after his 5am feed, but rarely works. thinking of doing cc next weekend for this early waking, either that or wake to sleep? can't complain though!

we've also started doing cc for his daytime naps, which is taking longer. he's been crying for 30-40 minutes, but today was only 15 minutes, so i'm hoping we're making progress. he starts at his childminders end of next month, so i need to definitely stop feeding him to sleep for his naps, eek! and get him to drink milk from a sippy cup

would be good to hear how your lo is doing busy?

and i keep reading that once nighttime sleep sorted, they should start sleeping longer for naps. i'm desperate for him to sleep longer than 30 minutes for his naps!!!

how is DD BMI?

So, after a week of stopping feeding at night, DD actually... slept though! First time ever! At 10 and a half months..

So started last friday, giving her a dream feed at 11ish (would normally wait for her to wake, so this is me taking 'control' of when she feeds) and then at her usual 2/3am wake, I pu/pd and put my hand on her till she settled. This took an hour and a half pretty much every night, never less than an hour, but I only pu/pd 3 or 4 times, she wanted to settle and go to sleep but clearly didnt know how without being fed. It was very frustrating as she kept drifting off but then waking again when I moved my hand, but on thursday I finally worked out it was actually me keeping her awake so I planned to stop touching her quicker on friday, but! She slept through! No one could be more surprised than I! (I didnt sleep through) she did cry out at 3am briefly but self settled, and then woke at 6.30, came in bed with me and snoozed till 8.
On saturday she woke at 4.30 and would not settle for DH, but last night she slept through again!
I think the main things that have brought this about are;

1. Not feeding to sleep at bedtime, putting her down awake and staying with her till she drops off 2)Dream feed - I make the descision what time she is fed, not her. (also put her down awake then too)
2. PU/PD and waiting with her to go back to sleep - she stayed in her cot, it was boring and she went back to sleep, but she knew I was there.
3. Not rushing in to comfort her when she wakes unless I can hear her properly awake (I used to dash in to avoid her waking DH)

now just to get past the 5.30am wakings. She is so awake then that I think pu/pd would not work, CC would keep her awake.. but she does always sleep another few hours once she is in with me, so she does need it.

She has also now dropped to just one nap if we are at home (she nods off in the car), which I need to extend past 45mins.. let us know how is goes Sheep

Glad to hear you're seeing improvements sheep and Siamese.

Bit of a mixed bag here, but definite improvements; we tried getting DD to settle in her cot for the first time about a week ago. Just lying her back down when she stood up mainly, and we gave her a toy that she likes to cuddle up to. She settled after about 45 mins the first night, and slept through till about 7.30am. The next few nights were mixed; she's slept through two or three nights, woken at 5.30ish one night, and last night she was so tired after not really napping during the day that she fell alseep during her last feed, but then she woke at about 1.30am. Settled reasonably easily though. Then we had to wake her up at 8am! She's still going to bed late though, about 9.30pm usually. Once we've got the routine down and she's settling well we'll start shifting it gradually earlier.

I agree Siamese, putting her down awake rather than feeding to sleep seems to be what makes the biggest difference here.

I hope things continue to go well for all of us; a good night's sleep makes such a difference.

Glad to see things are improving for everyone. We too have seen good progress. 3 nights of cc (with far less crying than I anticipated) and we had 10 days of sleeping through 7-6.30/7. Might have taken a step back last night as he woke crying at 3 (first time since we did cc) and as I was worried he'd had a tummy ache in the day, I went in and fed him. Hoping this hasn't set us back.. He's self settling for naps now although they are still depressingly short. Any tips??

But I feel soo much better for some sleep, and I've got so much more energy for him during the day.

Good luck!