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How can we get him to sleep???

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MrsMooo · 23/12/2010 15:12

DS is 16 months and still waking every 2/3 hours to feed to BF sleep. We've been co-sleeping for a while but were now finding the bed's not big enough for the 3 of us and he wants to roll around/move about and it disturbs us all. At best he will do 4/5 hours from 8 oclock, but that's if he's only had less than an hour during the day which makes for a very stressfull evening as he's shattered and grumpy (understandably)

I've had a few isolated incidences of leaving him to cry, and it has just escalated to hysterics and on one occasion vomiting as he was so upset.
I've also tried the hand holding/patting and it just went the same way after he realised it wasn't a game when mummy laid him down again.

He's at nursery in the day and even they have said they can't get him to respond to CIO/self settle

I am really really not coping with the sleep deprivation now, I work full time and it's making me moody, unpleasant to both DH & DS and giving me feelings of complete manicness/just wanting to walk out and never come back :( I am starting to think this is never going to get better

I worked out today that I've not had an unbroken night for 2 years including the poor sleep of late pregnancy. Even when he goes to Nanny's overnight I still wake because I think it's become a habit for us both

DH is understandable getting fed up with the tiredness too, as well as my mood swings - I've tried a few tips from the No-cry book but even trying to night wean him is nightmare as he just wakes up, cries and then ends up fully awake...

I am really at the end of my teather and can not cope any more... Please help me before I go mental from lack of sleep

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belindarose · 23/12/2010 16:11

I feel your pain. Was in exactly the same position till two weeks ago with 16 mo DD. Sounds similar in that I couldn't leave her to cry, bf frequently at night etc. I was only ever getting two hour stretches of sleep. I night weaned by going cold turkey ('milk sleeping') which took one night. She didn't ask again and is still feeding happily in the day. Two nights later I did cc. I wasn't going to let her cry for longer than 10 mins, but it never got that far. She's slept through the night ever since. I've been totally amazed and it's transformed our lives. It was taking 2 hours to get her to sleep at bedtime and up to 4 hours during the night!
I never thought I'd be recommending cc to anyone. DD asks to gobo bed now and just falls asleep.

belindarose · 23/12/2010 16:13

Go to, not gobo! We tried NCSS ideas too, which was more our style, but didn't work for us.

MrsMooo · 23/12/2010 17:00

He's been day weaned for a while, except one feed at bedtime...

What's 'milk sleeping'?

And thank you - it helps to know I'm not the only one

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belindarose · 23/12/2010 17:24

Sorry, didn't explain. That's just what i said to her as reason for not feeding. Seemed to get it!

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