What time of day was your lo born, Ellieo? Of the rest of our 22 June club, I note that redheadmum is really struggling with her little ds feeding about 4 times a night, not sure how Coop and mandymac are getting on now. I'm sure Coop said a few days ago her dd had started to feed more frequently in the night as well.
Weaning - well, I had wanted to hold off til 6 months because my dh has food intolerances and I don't want to introduce food too early, but even the hv is suggesting we wean earlier because of the reflux. The important thing for me will be to avoid wheat until at least 8 months (although there was a study recently showing children of coeliacs did as badly if wheat was introduced too late as too early - not that dh is a coeliac), and introduce foods very carefully so I can be sure of any reaction to them. I'm sure he'll be fine, I can eat anything, but then again, dh is lactose intolerant and that's obviously part of ds's problem now .. hmm.
Lummox, Sleep Lady's advice was aimed at getting Toby to go to sleep independently in his cot. We had already managed to start putting him down for sleeps there, but were swaddling him and then putting him down once asleep. I knew this was 'wrong' from the books, but frankly I didn't care. All we changed last night is that Toby had his bath, then bottle in the bedroom, then swaddled whilst awake but tired. Put down in the cot on his side and rocked gently backwards and forwards until he nodded off on his own.
Sleep Lady warned us it might take much longer to get him off to sleep that first night, I actually left dh to it as I thought two of us hovering in there nervously trying to perform this feat would be counter-productive. I could hear occasional cries from next door but nothing to concern me enough to go in. Anyway, it took about 40 mins in the end, but I discovered from dh that he had spent 35 mins rocking ds from side to side on his back, finally decided to give in and follow the advice and do it on his side, and he went out like a light in 2 mins Whether it would have been quicker if he'd followed the advice from the beginning I don't know, as we put ds down quite early as his afternoon nap had been interrupted by the ever-popular poo time.
In the night, I fed him at 130 and was frankly going to ignore sleep lady's advice not to feed him to sleep this first night, but it all went perfectly well. He fed nicely, I winded him which woke him up a bit, then I reswaddled him and popped him back down, bit of side to side rocking again (but no crying) and he was off til 530. I was then kept awake by dh's snoring from the room next door but the sleep lady cannot advise on such matters (other than to tell me I shouldn't let ds and dh share a room as the snoring is probably disturbing ds's sleep as well).
Popped him down for his nap the same way this morning, as daytime naps are a major problem trying to convince him he wants to go to sleep when there's anything going on in the house he might be interested in. He had a nice long nap, better than usual as I normally wake him up by inconsiderately not sitting stock still for an hour and a half, but we've now gone a bit off-piste as he's started his long lunchtime nap early and is on dh's knee in the living room. (Dh having taken the opportunity to go back to sleep as well).
Sorry, anyway, that's very long. Sleep Lady then has a plan for how you gradually withdraw from the room until he's putting himself to sleep on his own, we won't be starting that just yet although I'm impressed with how things are going so far. The better naps help him space his feeds out better as well, which as we refluxy mummies know can only be a good thing.
I'm really pleased that she hasn't advocated some kind of plan involving letting him cry it out (sorry lummox, I wouldn't do the Ferber thing unless I had exhausted every other possibility).
If he doesn't drop the nightfeeds on his own once solids are introduced, I can gradually cut down the amount of formula in his night bottles (i.e. fewer scoops in the same amount of water), although I hope it won't come to that as I don't fancy playing silly buggers with the mix of formula to water when it says on the box not to do this.
Phew, long post but hope there's some helpful info in there. I know we have been shamefully slow in getting a bedtime routine together, but the reflux has knocked us for a loop.