Can't get any sleep! Bedsharing with ten month old...HELP

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Am having trouble with my ten month old ds and would appreciate some advice. Basically I cannot get him to sleep in his cot at all. Been this way for a couple of months although he never slept well in the cot and usually ended the night with me. MIL says "its because he is breastfed!" and could do without those 'helpful' suggestions.

Have tried controlled crying but gave in after 1 hour when he was sobbing and covered in vomit. Ironically I have two other kids who both sleep through the nights in their own beds. Wondering where I went wrong.

Don't mind bed sharing too much but dread having ds in bed when still age 12 or something...

Just wanted to say that we've just made the decision to co-sleep with our 10mth old. We came to the conclusion that it was either that or CC and neither of us are up to that. We tried it once, last week, and after 25mins he was sick and his tears turned to whimpering and that was it for me.
He only ever sleeps through if we all sleep together, otherwise, every day, all three of us wake up cranky.
We've been worried about the rolling out too so we've decided to pack up the bed and we've bought three super king size duvets which we're going to sleep on (placed on top of each other).
We know that we're going to have to keep it from other people, esp. MIL. But it makes me cross as I feel it's best for my family.
Goog luck

Hiya

I posted a few days ago about a failed CC attempt, (I too am too soft and dd was way too distressed by it) and now we've gone from spending the first part of the night in her cot to her not being at all keen on her cot and wanting to spend the whole night in our bed, instead of just being taken there on waking in the middle of the night. I've tried to make her cot a more appealing place by spending a lot of time in the day playing with her in there and even bought her a surprise toy and put it there for her to find one afternoon, but still she prefers to cosy up to us.

I'm fine with that for now, (she's almost 13 months) but I too worry about her rolling out, (bed is against the wall on one side but with no-one in it but her early in the evening it would leave one side exposed and just too risky), so I too am having early nights at the moment! I thought about buying a bed rail but worry she'd try to climb over it/around it if she woke fully before we'd gone to bed. Not really an option to dismantle the bed as we have no spare space to but the bed while we're sleeping on the mattress only. I may have to look at taking the mattress and putting it in her room and sleeping there instead, (with safety gate on her door and making sure her room is doubly safe for nocturnal wanderings, should she wake before we go to bed).

Kids huh!? You can't help but love em though! I've just started reading Elizabeth Pantley's "No Cry Sleep Solution" and already it feels more like my style. She co-slept with her four children.

When I say she co-slept with her four children, that was one at a time! Not all at the same time.

We co-slept dd breastfeed as well. After trying numerous tehniques what has worked best for us has been dd falling asleep with us adn being carried to her own bed ( with lots of praise if she slept through and understanding if she didn't) just got her back to sleep and tried to get her back into her bed- much less hassel than cc and dd now goes to sleep in her bed and stays there