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3 week old unable to get to sleep in evening

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Giddyup · 28/11/2010 20:59

My 3 week old DD sleeps really well at night, but every evening it is getting harder and harder to get her to sleep. She used to be able to settle herself and went to sleep around 7pm. But she now won't go to sleep on her on and needs to be fed or rocked to sleep. When she is put down, she invariably starts cryng 20mins or so later. She roots like mad, so I feed her again for about 2 mins and she falls asleep at the breast or on my shoulder and then the process begins again! To begin with this happened twice or three times then she was out for the count: but each night it is taking more cycles of this to get her to sleep (3.5 hours last night!).

She now also only seems to nod off in the pram or car in the daytime. She is clearly not hungry and once she is asleep she sleeps for around 6 hours and after night feeds she goes back to sleep om her own, I am really concerned that this will be the next thing to go out of the window. Tonight DP has gone to give her a bottle to try and break the association with my boobs and see if she is really hungry, but we would rather not go down that route as she only takes an oz or 2 so its a bit of a faff and I would much rather she was breast fed. She does have the occaisional bottle, but I don't want it to be a regular thing- just when necessary/convenient.

So please wise owls-
How can we get her to settle/stay asleep?
How can I get her to stop snacking when tired?
Should I try a dummy? I don't really like the idea, but she hasn't suffered from nipple confusion when given the odd bottle. She has been having bottles to a varying degree since birth as shock from EMCS left me milkless for a week.

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stickersarecurrency · 28/11/2010 21:02

Can't link for you as on phone but google kellymom and fussy evenings and read that webpage for all the answers!

Giddyup · 28/11/2010 21:35

Thanks, that is all very reassuring. I can't remember any of this from when DS was tiny, I think I am looking back with rather rose tinted spectacles! Smile

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mamaduckbone · 28/11/2010 21:44

She's only 3 weeks old - much too young to form bad habits. Until about 4 months my ds2 stayed up until we went to be at around 10 - he would fuss a bit, feed a bit, doze on me...then gradually we started making it earlier and earlier when he seemed to be settling better and by about 6 months he was going to bed at 7.30 and settling himself.

It sounds like she's a pretty good sleeper if she's going a long stretch in the night - all that's happening is she's waking up a bit and taking an interest in the world around her.

If you try to relax about it then the phase will pass (as will the umpteen others that she will undoubtedly go through Smile)

stickersarecurrency · 28/11/2010 21:49

I thought after I posted that perhaps using the term "answers" was a bit misleading, but explanations are nearly as good :)

NonnoMum · 28/11/2010 21:53

Um, all I can add is that you were lucky she DID settle for you a few times so far! It's still early days. Just go with it, it'll be ages before she turns into an "advert baby" all snuggled-up and rosy just when she should be.
Just enjoy the early days. And keep smiling... Grin

Giddyup · 29/11/2010 09:35

Thanks everyone, I will try to rein in my control freakery. I am the worst szort of controller ad I beleive myself when I act relaxed and chilled out. Although it has occured to me that in treating 7am onwards like nightime to simplyfy getting DS ready and walked to school and then chilling till DD wakes again at 10 or 11am means that I have been expecting her to be in bed 15 hours! Blush This morning I got her up and fed and dressed and took her on the school run awake to try and shift things an hour or 2 earlier.

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Giddyup · 29/11/2010 09:39

agghh typos.... dozing DD taking up most of me...

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pastahat · 29/11/2010 15:27

DD2 was exactly like this, i think after 2 weeks they seem to suddenly "wake up" and was unable to settle all evening, i think its v normal at this age. I decided to let her just stay on & off boob all evening, think of it as cluster feeding - yes as soon as tried to put her down woke up! She'll get there & you certainly won't have created bad habits, she's unlikely to start not being able to settle at night based on anything you have or havent done. DD2 started settling more in evening at about 12w on & off - i know its harder when you have a v settled baby first time round but as you say i'm sure rose tinted spectacles play a part!

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