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babyboyjoy · 24/11/2010 06:55

Hi Everyone, my little boy has just turned 10 months. He was always a good sleeper, sleeping 11 hours straight through from 4 months until 7 months then he started teething. This is where I made my biggest parental mistake to date as I comforted him with cuddles and milk, he was so upset as he had 4 teeth cut the gum at the same time. I figured not to worry when the teething is on a break he'd sleep through again, but no! He wakes anything from once to 5 times a night. When he started to have dark shadows under his eyes (even though he naps well)I decided to take drastic action and try controlled crying (which I vowed against from day one!) I just feel like I've let him down and I need to teach him the right way again. To cut a long story short it was going very well until the fourth night when he cried for 2 and quarter hours, my husband was beside himself, I was crying as well as baby Sam and I gave in. He wolfed down 7 ounces of milk and was asleep within 5 minutes. I am now riddled with guilt and I don't know what to do for the best anymore. Last night I tried just keeping him in his cot and staying with him but that failed too, I laid him back down about 50 times but my baby has his father's stubborn streak!!!

I'm open to any suggestions you may have, please help as I felt like there was a light at the end of the tunnel with CC and now I don't know what else to try. My health visitor said to cut the milk and replace it with water so I started that last night. Thanks for reading everyone, I eagerly await your reply.

Vicki.

PS. He's too heavy for pick up put down now, he weighs 23 IBS.

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topsi · 24/11/2010 08:43

I can't remember that age very well but I think you should be trying to cut his milk down now. Does he get enough solids and fluid during the day.
I did CC with DS now 4 and the first few nights were hell, he cried for 2 hours as well!
I guess in an ideal world he wouldn't be having any milk or water at night at all and I think that's what you have to aim for. I know we got to 8 months I think and I was still feeding at night even though when DS slept at grandparents houses he used to sleep through!
I thought well that's that no more milk at night.
I think it's all a rocky road and you just have to keep the final goal in sight and keep plugging away and you will get there.
It's bloody hard work though!

Waitingforbaby · 28/11/2010 18:42

I recently cut out my DD's nighttime milk feeds (she's 15 months). The first night I refused to give her milk I just cuddled her for about 2 hours while she cried on and off. The next night was better. She still wakes up (haven't quite sorted out her sleep) but she doesn't wake up crying for milk anymore as I can usually settle her back to sleep relatively quickly. It's also helped her to eat better during the day. Good luck!

rr16 · 28/11/2010 19:03

Hiya Babyboyjoy,

I too am currently suffering with a 9mo DS who wakes every 2-3 hours at night and has done for the past 4 months. Prior to his teeth coming in he slept like an angel, just waking for feeds.

I have been doing CC for the last few days - tonight is night no.4. Althou it feels like years and I feel completely done in.

The first 3 nights were AWFUL, seriously awful. He woke up as per usual then it was hours of crying in the night b4 he fell back to sleep again. I too gave in and fed him thinking he must be hungry but with all he eats during the day I know he really wasn't.

Anyway I'm sticking at it coz I've got this far and there's no going back now... I really can't cope mentally and physically with such sleep deprivation anymore. I've been feeling so depressed and it can only be due to lack of sleep.

Tonight he fell asleep within 15 minutes. I don't know what it's going to be like for the rest of tonight but fingers crossed xXx

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