DS is 9mo. He goes to sleep on his own very well at the beginning of the night (so can self settle!) but seems to wake up in the middle of the night and refuses to go back to sleep. Last night he woke up at midnight, had a quick boob and then went back down easily. He then woke up again at 3.30 and would not settle back to sleep. He had some boob and was quiet for about 10 mins but then was whinging / crying for about 2 hours. I tried feeding him again, which didn't work and checked he was clean / dry / warm enough / didn't have any trapped wind. In the end DH stayed up with him for half an hour and he eventually got him back in his cot at 5.30.
This has happened several times in the past couple of weeks and the sleep deprivation is really starting to set in. On nights where he doesn't wake in the middle of the night he wakes up at 6ish, whinges on and off for 40 mins and goes back to sleep till around 7.30 / 8ish.
In his whole life he has slept through 4 times. We used controlled crying to teach him to self settle (I know it is frowned upon by lots of people but worked for us)which he does at the beginning of the night and at naptime. I've weaned him off night time breast feeds twice, but we always go back to it in desperation to try and help him settle, and it doesn't always work!!
Any ideas or has anyone been through anything similar? I am thinking of weaning him off the night time breast feeds and then using controlled crying, but not sure I will be able to hack it in the middle of the night? Any advice gratefully received!