Is it wise to give in when they are unwell?

[madmarchhare]

DS, 21 months, has a cold and is not sleeping as well at night. Hes waking up more often and struggling to get back to sleep due to coughing and breathing difficulties.

Normally when he is well and for whatever reason he whinges in the night I would nip it in the bud and go back to a couple of nights 'mean mummy' and CC, but feel too mean when hes poorly.

Question, is it OK to give in or will I set myself up for a nightmare few weeks with sleeping if I do this?

Any experiences or tips?

well, yes and yes.

it's ok to give in, but you may have to go back to cc when he's better. better that than leave him when he's poorly though.

I am very strict about cc, but couldn't leave a sick child to cry.

Awww! Definitely give in.
But then, as I've said before, I have a PhD in 'making a rod for my own back'.

Not tried the plug in thing, have you? Do they work?

Trefusis, I feel like I want to give in but Im all confused . I thought Id cracked the sleeping thing and then, hey ho, just to stop me in my stride....

I know its not really a big deal in the scheme of things but had 'words' with DH about it and cant seem to agree.

Ooo I forgot about the propping the cot up trick. Will do that tonight.

When my son is ill I give in, then go back to being wicked mummy when he is well again

I always give in when they're ill. I think if they're ill they feel worse lying alone in bed at night and need a cuddle more than ever.I find you only have to keep getting up anyway.

I have even slept in their room on occasion (on the floor) if dh has been getting impatient as he has an early start for work. Or sometimes make I up a little 'bed' next to ours for whoever is ill; they seem to like that and it means you're not so squashed together in your bed.

If it's only for a night or two, I don't think it means they think they can stay in with us for ever. Once all is well, back they go!

Ds always with me in bed when he is not well, and magically goes back happily to his cot when he is better. When he is really poorly he just needs to be close, I sort of know when he needs it but lay no claim to be an earth mother. Poor little mite holds on to me all night bless him, in some topsy turvy way love it when he needs me so much, though not him being ill of course.

Ah, youve all made me feel a bit better about it all now.

Next question, extra cuddles in his room (still in cot so a bit awkward) spare room or our room?

Would say his room - then you haven't deviated too far from what you want to be doing in peacetime?