hi, ds (3.5) still comes into our bed most nights. We are working on this and on a good night he just comes in about 5am ish for a morning cuddle. Its always been like this - well before we started trying bribing him sticker charts he came in with us every night from about 11pm so there is improvement - now i would say he sleeps about 50% with us and 50% in his own bed.
I have 3 months before ds2 arrives and he will be sleeping with us. I am just wondering if we need to really be firmer and try to sort this out with ds1 before ds2 arrives - imagining night feeds/ crying baby etc waking him up etc - or at this late stage is it likely that any solution we reach will be cancelled out by his potential increased clinginess once baby is born (and he sees that it sleeps in mummy and daddy´s bed)?
have any of you had a toddler and a baby in bed? does it even remotely work??
I want to add that we are happy for ds1 to sleep with us, we are used to it and although I would rather he slept in his own bed its been like this forever and i can´t say we have really been bothered enough by it to take a hardline stance til now. But he does go to school and i don´t want him kept up all night with a crying baby, that is my real concern.