14 wks wont self settle

[driedapricots]

my ds always needs cuddling, rocking off to sleep...has done since he was born..although to be honest he's my 2nd and so i have just done what i needed to in order to get him back off to sleep as quickly as i can in order to deal with toddler/get enough sleep myself. now i'm thinking i've created a bit of a rod for my own back! (which is killing me from the constant rocking) the problem is (and always has been) that if i just lie him down he really frets and is clearly very uncomfortable - i honestly think however long i left him he wouldn't self settle.is it possible he's just not a self settling kinda baby?! my dd was the opposite, hated cuddles and just wanted putting down when tired... ds also shows signs of having silent reflux which we've just started treating with medication now, could it be this is to blame for inability to self settle from laying down - btw he can fall asleep in car seat, pram and swingy chair...should i just keep trying and leave him to cry it out?? anyone been in the same boat?

dried, I am in the same boat exactly.

Ds 1 was a natural settler. Ds2 has had awful relfux.

I wouldn't leave him, no. He is wee and whether it is reflux or not he has a need to be helped to sleep. He is still very, very young. Will he feed to sleep?

Personally I don't believe in rods for backs. I think being able to settle is a developmental stage that kids reach at different ages. We were lucky with our first ones, that's all!

I feel your pain though. It si sore on the old back. I found an electronic swing worked well.

Wrt reflux, there are loads of things to try. GO to 'crying over spilt milk' for starters. And pester the hell out your docs to get the right meds. And do a search on here. Also, lie him on his side (left) and incline the cot if you haven't already.

We are at 5 mths now and lots better, though his sleep is still not good. hell of a lot better though.

thanks nicky ..going to look at crying over spilt milk now ;-)
once he's asleep he's fine, settled for a few hours at a time, it's just getting him off,...especially in the middle of the night!
what medication is your ds 2 on, and how long before you noticed a difference on it?
also, do they grow out of reflus by weaning stage?

mine is on ranitadine and it helped fairly quickly - couple of weeks.

reflux ois a horrid thing. I had never even heard of it before - just kenw my baby was in pain.

this is good too.

ds2 improved a fair bit around 4 mths. a lot get a bit beter at 6 mths when they are eating food too.

Poor you - it is bloody awful.