Toddler and baby - how to sort out baby naps

[latrucha]

I have a daughter 2.10 who has a nap after lunch and a four month old baby.

Baby used to put himself to sleep in bed or the bouncy chair at times, often on the breast or in the pushchair.

I've realised that in the last couple of weeks the baby is only falling asleep on the breast or in the pushchair. This is mainly to do with the demands of the toddler. If we are at home I put him to sleep in the same room as our toddler and me he gets woken. If i try and put him upstairs in his bed either he cries or my duaghter shouts up the stairs and stops him getting to sleep. If I take my toddler out, he sleeps for too long in the pushchair with knock on consequences for the evening.

If there a way to wangle this so I don't have to feed him to sleep all the time or him sleeping too long int he pushcahir? It would mean having time to put him to bed upstairs and to settle him if he gets upset.

Or do we just muddle through as we have been (which is ok but getting more difficult as he will no longer sleep in the bouncy chair) and I resign myself to feeding him to sleep for every nap and bed time sleep?

I've no idea but if you figure it out please tell me as I have much the same problem. DD1 is 2.2 and currently refusing to have a daytime nap unless I bundle her in the buggy after DD2's lunchtime feed. DD1 and DD2 will then sleep. DD2 has yet to have a daytime nap in her cot as she is either sleeping in the buggy or in sheer desperation when she is overtired but I'm trying to placate DD1 in the babybjorn!

DD2 has no set nap routine and will either have a longish nap in mid morning, or after lunch. She also used to fall asleep in the bouncy chair but now DD1 insists on going and giving her cuddles this is less successful!

I have decided I'm much better when muddling through improviding, so we are roughly doing this:

At weekends when DH is here and the two days DD is at nursery, he sleeps in his cot (I usually feed him to sleep) in the mornings.

In the afternoons he catches a nap in the pushchair or a few minutes in the Baby Bjorn.

On the days when DD is with me alone all day, we do what we can, which is a combination of all the above, depending on everyone's mood.

It might not be much help. However, I find I'm personally a lot less stressed about it when I don't decide DS HAS to do something and seeing what works on any given day. It's working ok for us.

BTW - if he falls asleep in the Baby Bjorn bouncer, DD and I do big comic 'Shhhhhh''s and sneak off into another room. We do a lot of 'washing up' in the bathroom sink.