Ok sleep experts, help me out because I cocked up!

[mosschops30]

dc3 has always been a fairly good sleeper, slept through from ahout 6 weeks.

We started with him just dropping off on the sofa about 7pm then we would carry him up, dream feed him and put him in his cot.
Then we started to try putting him in his cot at 7pm but he would either not go off or wake up after 40 mins and stay up til we went to bed.
We found (by some fluke) that he would sleep on our bed and stay asleep until we dream fed him about 10pm and thats what we've been doing since.
However its now taking about 30-40 mins to get him off, one of us has to lie with him so he doesnt crawl off the bed, and pin his arms and legs down gently (or wrap him) so he goes off.
Two nights ago I decided this nonsense had to stop and that I would wrap him and put him straight in cot, which went fine, but dh did it last night and he said dc3 went crazy, screaming and getting in a state so he ended up falling asleep on our bed

So how can I conquer this problem?

No namby pamby suggestions please, he is a 3rd baby and I dont believe that children have to be rocked/stroked etc to sleep and I certainly dont want to spend 40 mins of my night getting dc3 off to sleep

I did a 'Stay in the room' type of CC on our DD at 15 months old. She would never settle to sleep in her cot only our bed, and after 4 nights of doing this plan, she slept 12 hours straight, got herself to sleep without me, in her cot, and has been the same ever since. Magic! If you want a copy of the book I have it on electronic version so message me your email address and I'll forward it to you.

is 11 months a bit young for controlled crying?

Hes fine when I put him in the cot after dream feed and will happily stay there all night, but its just the going off to sleep.

Would love to have a read though, will msg you thank

Hmm up to you really, I was lucky that DD didn't scream her heart out when we did it, just moaned/cried whilst I sat next to the cot and shushed her. Totally personal choice though. Will wait for your message and email it to you, happy to help, if it helps!

I used spaced soothing by Jo Tantum .She came to my house to taech me and my ds 8 months .She puts baby in cot ,and waits for 5 mins listening for quiet,or sleep noises .Thne after taht if they get upset go in and either pat their shoulder or stroke their nose from forehead to nose tip,and say shhhh .Do this for 2-3 mins then leave the room again .Wait again for 5 mins and do exactly the same.Leave longer if there are quiet gaps and sleep noises .It really does work!

thanks lisa, its getting worse, he has woken up in the night for the last 3 nights, and refuses to be soothed, however if I take him into our bed, he falls straight to sleep, which annoys me more I think because I know hes not in pain or anything.

Wouldnt go to sleep in cot again last night, and wont be consoled by stroking or anything else, just continues to scream until you take him out of there, at which time he is immediately quiet

If you are in London Jo is at the Baby show.My friend went yesterday and she is on the stage and you can go and talk to her on her stand .Hope that helps .Otherwise her website is www.babysecretsltd.com