does DD know she is in her cot (odd Q)

[Scarlett175]

if you have read any prior posts you will know I have done a lot of work using PU/PD to get my (just) 6 month old DD sleeping in her cot, all night without being fed into a coma. DH had taken over bedtime but due to his workload etc I have had to take over and it has been very tough as soon as she sees me and bedtime she expects a BF.

For the last 3 nights I have put her to bed, given her a BF but not waited for her deep sleep and put her into cot.I usually try to lay her down before BF but she continues to cry/try to wriggle down my chest so I have ended up giving BF. As lights are off I can't see totally, but wait for her breathing to slow (so I know she's finished drinking) and lay her in cot. Sometimes she jolts a little and I either pat or hold her hand. Sometimes she just sighs and gets comfy.I am really anxious to avoid undoing all my DH's work so my worry is that I am just feeding her to sleep again, even though it feels very different to what we used to do, and she is much easier to settle on any other night wakings (which have also been far fewer).

anyone...

what is PU/PD?

Pick Up/Put Down...

Sorry, no advice to offer otherwise, Scarlett. My DD will usually settle herself okay at bedtime (after a BF), but overnight I feed her back to sleep and have a similar problem to you in that she won't accept any other way to get settled.

Um...good luck...?

I've found that there are times when DS wants feeding to sleep. Other times he'll self settle. Sometimes when I feed him to sleep, he'll wake in the night but put himself back to sleep again. Other times he'll cry out for one of us.

My point is that every night won't be the same. If your DD goes to sleep in the cot, great. If sometimes she needs you to feed her, then do it if it's easy. She'll go through teething, illness and separation anxiety which will mean sometimes she'll need a bit more help. You won't "undo" anything. Just give her the opportunity to self settle and she'll do it if she feels relaxed.

You could put her in the cot after a feed in such a way that she stirs a bit so she knows she's in her cot?

thanks guys..

she does stir a bit when I put her in the cot, so I do think on reflection she knows where she is. DH is doing bedtime tonight, its just that life is so much easier when both or either of us can do bedtime... I was just worrying that feeding her would make her only reliant on me but I think she actually adapts to DH or me, just that with me only a BF will do most times...

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