how to give up co-sleeping with 15 week old?

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DD2 is 15 weeks and BF. Right from the start I have been putting her in her moses basket when she settles for the night (anytime from 8-11 usually), and then when she wakes up bringing her into bed with me and BF on and off all night.

This system worked beautifully with DD1 when she was tiny - it meant that as she started sleeping for longer periods at the beginning of the night she spent less and less time in our bed, til eventually she was sleeping through the night in her moses basket.

With DD2 she went through a few weeks of sleeping from 10-3 in her moses basket, which was fab, but lately it's been getting worse and worse. Last night after hours of feeding she finally went down in the moses basket at 11.30 but woke again at 12.30 and came into bed with me.

I'm exhausted - i don't sleep well with her in bed with me, but she just will not go back in the moses basket once she's woken up that first time. She just wants the boob in her mouth all night! By the time DD1 was this age she was sleeping 11-5 not a problem.

Do you think i should just bite the bullet and start returning her to the moses basket after each nightime feed rather than feeding her in bed? I don't know which is worse. I don't mind bringing her into bed but i'd like at least a chunk of good quality sleep at the beginning of the night!

I am going through the same thing although am trying to transfer her to a cotbed at the same time. I think I need to concentrate on getting her to sleep in her cotbed first and continue with the co-sleeping from 2am onwards and then once she's adjusted focusing on trying to get her to sleep all night in her cotbed. Sorry i can't offer any advice but am interested in other responses/help.

Perhaps she is going through the sleep regression everyone keeps banging on about at 4 months.
My DS slept through from 10 weeks ish and then it all went downhill from about 16 weeks.it definitely wasn't hunger as he has a dreamfeed and isn't hungry first thing.He just could not settle!In the end I got rid of his dummy and he has started sleeping through.

I guess you need to teach her to learn to self settle if you can rule out hunger/teething.Perhaps she might sleep better in a cot than a Moses Basket now?
Sorry not much help there I'm afraid.

Hi - just wanted to post on this as am in a similar boat to you, so am interested in any advice / . DS (11 weeks) starts the night in his cot, then comes in with us where he wakes frequently, and I feel like my breast is in his mouth all night! Seems to be getting worse not better. Bit of a vicious circle as I'm then too tired to try to resettle him in the cot. "no cry sleep solution" has a section on moving co-sleeping babies into their own cot, and on stopping them snacking through the night - do you have this book? I am thinking of trying to delatch him before he falls asleep in the night, and also maybe resettle him in the cot during one night waking...it's hard though when you're sleep deprived!! I feel that co-sleeping has contributed to his frequent wakings; that and my tendency to stick the breast in at every waking!

Very much with you. DS is older, almost 6 months. Has co-slept since day 1 as would not settle in moses or crib. CS has been a god send in the early weeks, but now it is becoming a problem as we are disturbing each other and my back is suffering! Like RaisingMrC I tend to stick the boob in whenever he wakes.

The way I see it, the only way to get baby to stay where he/she wakes, is to teach it to settle in there in the first place, which ofcourse is easier said than done. Especially when they are so small, all they want is to be close to us, and it is so natural for them to sleep on the boob.

I have tried no cry sleep solution, but didn't find it geared up to tranfering to cot imo.
There are threads on here about PU/PD as one method to teach self settling. But I think you need to persevere, this is no quick fix.

I hope we get some pointers, I am watching with interest

and we are forever wanting to bite the bullet too..toss up between taking him into bed and getting a reasonable night, or up down up down to DS in cot. Tricky one, for us the time is looming to bite it I reckon!

Could well be the 4 month sleep regression/growth spurt: more info here, here, here and here.

Could you come up with an alternative solution? What worked for me was putting the mattress on the floor and having a single mattress right alongside it. DS slept on the single mattress so I could lie down to feed him, then move myself back to my mattress without disturbing him once he was asleep again.