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Night wakings, is there anything we can do?

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BeesBump · 21/09/2010 20:41

My little man is 19 weeks old and a good 18lb and very healthy. I'm struggling to find advice on our issue, he dropped the middle of the night feed over three weeks ago but is so restless in the early hours that we have to settle him over and over or he wakes himself up. (Settling for us usually means replacing dummy - very sucky baby - or stroking head, arms.)

He's never slept for long periods, but mum and dad are so shattered with at best a 3 hour block of sleep each night... any advice / strategies / experience welcome. This is a normal night;

7 - 8pm Bedtime (after a bath and feed, sleeps in crib & grobag)
Sleeps well (maybe one quick settle) until 10 / 11pm feed (usually very sleepy during this and settles straight back to sleep)
Sleeps well
Around 1.30 (sometimes earlier / later) starts one or more of 'jiggling, rolling, wimpering, head fussing, crying' and we are in and out of the crib settling many times until morning.
6 - 7am wakes nicely smiling and happy in his crib, gentle play then a feed.

He does scale up and wake up if we don't settle him as we've tried letting him self settle. I know the dummy might be an issue, but he does fall asleep without it and pushes it out. Also seems very keen to be more mobile. He's formula fed, feeds well (plenty) during the day and has 3x45 minute naps.

Really hoping not to have to use a cry it out approach, but any advice is more than welcome. I'm just desperate to have a 5 hour stretch of sleep each night to be more able to cope with the days for my boy :)

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pinata · 21/09/2010 22:54

I'm in a similar situation , so will be watching for any good ideas

One thing that occasionally works for us is to make sure DS is nice and warm. If he gets cold he is more restless

Other than that, I am just hoping it passes soon

seeker · 21/09/2010 22:59

If he's restless he's probably hungry - he's quite young to have dropped the night feed. Surely you can only say he's dropped it if he sleeps without it?

You don't seriously mean you're going to do cry it out on a §9 week old baby, do you?

Notanexcitingname · 21/09/2010 23:03

19 weeks is a classic time for sleep regression and growth spurt. Whilst knowing nothing about ffing, he sounds hungry to me. Agree with seeker.

BeesBump · 22/09/2010 08:49

Pinata - Thank you, we do keep a close eye on his temp and that of the room. Hope things improve for you all soon.
Seeker - Let me be clearer. I do not intend to let my baby cry it out, I simply mentioned it because it has been suggested to me and I am seeking OTHER approaches.

4 months is quite a usual time for a baby to drop the night feed especially when big and feeding well in the day. Also I have tried feeding him at night when he gets restless, he drinks hardly anything and is still restless after. This coupled with the lack of urgency for the 6/7am feed leads us to believe the night feed has been genuinely dropped.
There are a number of reasons other than hunger why a baby may not sleep well, my feeling is he is trying to be mobile at night (unconsciously) as he / his body is learning such skills in the day.
Note: he doesn't fully wake if settled quickly, so is asleep just in a light sleep.

Just seeking a way to help him have more peaceful nights, quite happy to accept these things happen in there own time, but if there is something we haven't considered all supportive advice is welcome.

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seeker · 22/09/2010 09:41

Sorry. It was you saying 'Really hoping I don't have to' gave me the idea you were considering it.

BeesBump · 22/09/2010 09:55

Thanks, yes that was ambiguous. Don't think I could do the crying option even if I wanted to!

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tiredpooky · 22/09/2010 16:46

my DD was often restless in the night, half asleep thrashing , even now she still is sometimes at 15m, usually last 1-2h maybe every 1-2w now, but i remember for months and months, maybe till 10m old, she would be so easily wakened and restless from 4 am, i would have to constantly breaSTFEED her to get her back asleep, cosleeping, slept many a time my nipple in her mouth. i was so desperate for sleep
so i sympathise, i believe its immature brain not very good at sleep plus brain developing so fast eg is DS about to roll /crawl. i know when i had exciting day i get brain buzz and dont sleep as well. i am sure its same thing for a baby

BeesBump · 22/09/2010 16:50

Thanks tiredpooky this definately fits, DS always trying to roll over and to tries to crawl when on his tummy, getting frustrated after a few minutes.
He did roll fully from back to front today so hopefully as he gets the hang of it more his sleep will settle a bit.

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