Will HV only suggest CC or CIO?

[belindarose]

As solutions to my DD's sleep difficulties? I'm getting desperate enough to get in touch with one (if I can, have only ever seen a health visitor assistant so far, who reads questions off a tick list and doesn't ever look at me or DD). I feel like I'm going to sink into depression over this. But will not do either of the above, so I guess probably wasting my time, and hers. Major cash flow problems, so no chance of using a private clinic.

How old is your DD? What's your difficulties? I went to an NHS HV sleep clinic with DS1 for his early waking and they didn't really suggest anything I hadn't tried already. The HV was more focussed on other things than CC or CIO though, like bedtime routines, etc.

well if you won't do CC or CIO you're left with in bed with you aren't you?

which works

and is a choice

what's the problem anyway

or pick up put down but to me that was always extending the pain

How old is your DD?
My HV recommended a gradual retreat method but to be perfectly honest DD simply did not sleep properly until she was ready (we didn't want to do the CC CIO methods either)
I always felt like a failure as everyone else's baby seemed to have slept through at 2 months etc. And was seriously sleep deprived too!
At about 13 months she started to like her cot and then come 15 months she asked to go to bed for the first time of her own accord and now willingly goes in there at night and during the day to sleep (she's 18 months now) it hasn't been easy but I'm really glad I stuck it out as I couldn't have left her to cry.
Not sure if that helps at all but hope you get everything sorted. X

In bed doesn't work for her actually. I wish it did!
Can't really face describing it all again - I have in other threads. She's 13mo. You're right, no point asking for help. I know she'll probably sleep better when she's ready. I just need stretches of more than 2 hours sleep at a time (if lucky!).

Have you tried the no cry sleep solution? (book) I found doing the sleep logs motivational if nothing else. And did have some success with some suggestions.

I have, BertieBotts, thanks. I've been trying the phased method suggested, but the sleep logs show no progress. I did use her suggestions for improving napping successfully a few months ago.

Do ask for help as the HV may have some better suggestions than mine did.
One thing I did find helped was changing the end of the bed she slept at. Sounds strange but it seemed to help and even now when DP puts her to bed the 'wrong' way she can't sleep.
I also fostered a relationship between her and a cuddly toy (she chose it in the shop and even though it was a bloody zingzilla I figured I'd try anything!) and even though zingzilla has been lost she will cuddle a toy to get to sleep now.
You have my absolute sympathy as DD slept with us when she was small but at about 1 year she decided she didn't like that but also didn't want to sleep in her cot so that was fun! All I can say is it will get better!
Good luck x