God how much more of this can i take !!

[loganberry12]

my 1 year old wont sleep she didnt go to sleep till 1.45am and was awake 6 times till i finally gave in and got up at 8am, she has never been a good sleeper. She only had 2 hours yesterday morning nap so she not sleeping too much in the day. Im just exhaused now and cant function during the day and am irritable with her. She has also stopped eating meals and will only east a few mouthfuls of babanna or yogurt before spitting it out, which she does with everything i offer her, help please

I think as long as she drinks is Ok
a day or two with less food won't damage her

btw - what does she drink and how often?

breast milk in the moring and before bed and during the night but only a couple of oz at a time, water during the day

please dont tell me not to feed her during the night because its the only thing that gets her back to sleep for an hour, ive tried water or just cuddling or patting her but shes wide awake again and wont go back to sleep for hours
and because im so tired its easiest. this is my 5th child i had her late in life im 44 my others are all grown up, i never had a problem with any of them sleeping or eating

it has been long since I had my kids :)
I think however that giving your DC a very structured day would help you to cope with it

my older one was awake nights and slept through day until she was 3 months old

the break through came when she was again awake all night but I agreed to meet someone in London on that day
so I packed her in the car, then came a train and tube journey
she was very allert and bright all that time
then I went to see my friend - her kids were playing with my little one until midday when we packed and then was the first time she fallen asleep int the 18 hours

she was asleep again alter about 4 pm and went to sleep for the first time in her life at 10 pm....

I could not believed it happened then
as a child she was very easily disturbed out of her sleep pattern, but now as a 12 year old sleeps like a log from about 9:30 :)

what I am trying to say is - maybe try to tire your DC, but with something not too exausting liek a playgroup but rather amuzing with a hope that it would help him/her to fall asleep - be it a buggy or a car around midday

don't worry about food, snacks are OK
bananas are high in calories :)

I am 43 - and feel for you :)

i am going to take her to mother and toddler this afternoon even though im so tired and she usually has a nap at 2pm maybe this will help

I think keep here awake for as long as possible

she is probably fine, (if a bit overtired) you are the one that needs more sleep. Try to deal with this first. Can DH/P take her is the early morning before work so that you can have an hour or so, you could then feed her back to sleep to give you a bit more. Once you have caught up a bit you can then begin thinking about changing her routine in a way that suits you all. i've been there and when you have as little sleep as you are getting you are just too tired to think about anything

no there is no one to help DH goes to work by 7am and he's too tired too to get up any earlier because his sleep is also disturbed as she sleeps in our room, there is no other room i can put her in. To be honest i dont want to go any where because im so tired i just want to sleep when she does in the day but i know i have to keep her active and awake but im so tired i cant think straight

do you think that your older kids could take over later?

when I read something like that I wish I could help as I have a lot of time on my hands right now :)

when my ds was an early riser ex used to go to bed by 9 and he was up with him at 5 am...

no only have one older child with me still at home and she wont help says "you had her you look after her" nice!!

well - maybe at least she helps a bit

I bet she is just jelaous :)

I wonder if it would be worth trying to establish some daytime naps with your DD so that she isn't then overtired by bedtime which will make it harder for her to settle and result in more night wakings. I seem to remember at this age my DD was having 2 naps a day - one in the morning at about 9am (45 mins) and then one after her lunch at about 1pm (maybe an hour). This would then be enough to get her to bedtime at about 6pm / 6.30pm.

I think that trying to keep her awake and active during the day when she is used to having a nap may be counter productive as she will become overtired.
With the spitting food out - my DD did this and I just used to ignore it and take the food away if she carried on doing it. She seemed to grow out of it pretty quickly.
Good luck and I hope you all get some sleep soon.