My god, WHY WON'T HE JUST GO TO SLEEP

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So I'm definitely at the end of my tether.

Ds is 8 months old and breastfed but had been having a bottle before bed to get him to sleep. He's never slept through and getting him to sleep in his cot is such a battle that we had been cosleeping but I want my bed back.

For the last week he had been in his cot all night with some crying before he went to sleep and me comforting him with my had etc. Anyway, last night and tonight he's having none of it and I just want to give in with it all.

I've cut out the breastfeeds in the night and replaced them with 1 bottle as he was waking for comfort and I want to reduce the milk to get him to sleep through. I know he's teething and he wants me fe comfort bit I've had 8 months of constantly doing everything for him and i just want my bed back but I hate hearing him cry but I know he doesn't need me to get to sleep.

I'm having such a battle with myself which is making things worse and I van feel myself getting frustrated at the fact he's been screaming for nearly an hour and a half. I feel likegoing in and just shouting at him to goto sleep but i know it won't help and i will feel guilty but o JUST CAN'T DO ANYTHING right with him and I just want him to sleep.

I know I will go and picky u and he will begone but he has won then yet again. Please help mensomeone

i think that it's understandable if he is used to co-sleeping with you that he kick off when it stops...he prefers being with you which is normal.

don't really know what to suggest, a more gradual transition, maybe getting him to sleep in cot during day time naps first so he knows that is a place that is safe and nice to sleep and that you're there when he wakes up?

can you go in to him at intervals and sooth him and then put him down again? might be a load of times for the first two or three nights but he WILL eventually get used to the idea that co-sleeping is over. i think the thing with babies is to keep trying but with realistic expectations of how quickly they can adjust...he has been co-sleeping for 9 months, so a few days of adjustment isn't unreasonable...

sympathies, really.

poor you
it is tough.
soph is right - nrrf gradual transition.

also sympathies

can u send DP/DH in for a few nights on the trot so DS gets the message
do u have a DP that would cosleep to give u a break? altho risks i think with a DH rather than a DM at this age?
can u alter how u feel about it, ie that one day u will get ur bed back , is it really so awful? doesnt last long in grand scheme of things, btw cant remember what age but cosleeping became so much easier, was it 8m/9m? certainly by a year cos DD doesnt want to sleep right next to me anymore so i got a lot of space
i dont think its a competition about he or you winning, maybe u should try and think differently about that if poss, more like he has needs and you meet them but still having some boundaries for you that he learns to accept? iyswim

I don't have any good advice, just if you are at the end of your tether and he's teething then you will probably find things get better very quickly once the teeth are through.
good luck.

calpol for teething. i am sure you have thought of it but it did help with my first baby

I know it's hard and really frustrating and sleep deprivation is torture BUT your baby hasn't 'won' if you pick him up. It's not a battle of wills. He just wants his mum to comfort him- that's normal.