Day time nap tips needed

[mamma1mia]

My LO is 12 weeks old and fails to nap in her cot during the day even though she is clearly tired. She will not settle by herself, so I usually get her off to sleep by feeding, rocking etc but as soon as I put her down she wakes. As a consequence by about 4ish she can get quite upset, which upsets me. Some mums seem to have LOs that have two hour naps at lunch time and while I know all babies are different I would like to know if mums have any tips or if you've had a similar expereince whether she will eventually start to nap during the day at some point? Thanks

12 weeks is far to young to get into a regular daytime routine imo (I stand by to be corrected).

Neither of my children slept well in their cots during the day until they were about 6 months.

DS2 refused to sleep by himself at all until about 16 weeks so maybe I'm not the best person to give advice.

Can you go for a brisk walk when she is tired and hopefully she will drop off and you can come back and have a cup of tea (although DS1 had a tendency to become wide awake when the front door opened

Thanks for the reassurance, as a first time mum it is good to get other people's opinions. What started to worry me was reading a free book I got with a magazine(I try not to read too much for this very reason) which was going on about how by about 3 months a pattern of sleeping eating should be as follows 7 am awake and feeding, 9am nap, 11 am feed, 2.15 feed, 4.30 nap etc. I thought to myself I have a baby not a robot which doesn't have an on/off switch!

1. Make yourself a cup of tea and take book into garden
2. Burn book.

Honestly, it's books like these that make new mother's lives a misery. I'm not dissing the whole routine idea if it works for you but if your LO hasn't read the fucking book you tie yourself in knots wondering what you are doing wrong.

If you LO will only sleep if you feed or hold her, get yourself a DVD boxed set and enjoy!

I say this as my DS1 started school this week - it won't last long you know

DD is six months and only in the last 3 weeks has she got herself into some sort of daytime nap routine. She's started getting visibly tired (eye rubbing) and will nap for at least an hour, around 9.30am, 12.30pm and 4pm (we get up between 6 and 7).

Didn't force a routine at all before then, she'd sleep in car, or pram, or wherever. I did get a free copy of one of the 'routine' books with a magazine just before she was born, I threw it in the charity bag after I got to about page 10 :)

Thanks all, just given me piece of mind to know that my little one is a baby and no matter what people say about routines she will find one (if ever) when she is ready, and if she is happiest being with me and sleeping with me then so be it after all she won't be a little one for very long-I will make the most of our cuddles!!