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So so tired and not sure what to do

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littlelozz · 09/09/2010 08:16

My DD2 is 16 months today and I can count on one had the amount of nights where she has slept with only waking once or twice. In fact I think she has only ever slept through completly once.

I just dont know what to do. I feel as though I have tried everything and when looking at her pattern on the days when she does sleep well - for example Sunday night woke once at 5 and then up at 7 - this was amazing! Did the exact same things on the Monday and then she was up 4 times.

Is she too young to go into a bed? I have a horrible feeling that she hates her cot or the mattress isnt comfy enough as when ever she stays at the MIL or my mum she magically sleeps through the night. Now I dont know if she really does or they are just saying that so I dont feel guilty that they have been up all night (she's only stayed over maybe 5 or 6 times)

Is there something I can do to make her sleep through? She naps during the day from anything from 30 mins to 2 hours quite early in the day (maybe 11ish) and never sleeps longer than 3.30 so she will go down at 7.

Is the bed a good idea or is it going to make things worse? I feel Im loosing the battle with her and DH does bugger all to help as he just sleeps through her waking and in the morning doesnt believe me when I say how many times I have been up.

Sorry its so long. I just need help :(

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Firsttimer7259 · 09/09/2010 08:38

Hi am just getting through my first sleep nightmare with DD 7 months. My thread is the 'waking up to play -HELP' one.

Am really no expert but wonder whether you have the same as me that actually your girl is not tired enough. Could explain why sleeps better on days when lots going on (visiting granny).?? Same with sunday, nice busy day from a baby point of view with 2 adults about, then Monday its just mum and so less excitement...

Firsttimer7259 · 09/09/2010 08:47

it could also be too little sleep, waking between sleep cycles etc etc I found the stuck in a never ending sleep regression thread useful.

InmaculadaConcepcion · 09/09/2010 09:33

Another possibility is that your DD wants the pleasure of your company overnight - so doesn't try it on when she's with her grandmas. Maybe kick DH out of bed to deal with her when she wakes up for a few nights (a weekend...?) - it might break the habit..

...unless she decides she wants the pleasure of DH's company Grin

lavenderlois · 09/09/2010 09:53

Have you tried not going to her in the night? It could be that she would be able to settle herself to sleep again. could be hard for the first few nights, but could work in the long run - you might find that she is waking at the grandparents house, but they either dont hear her, or dont go in and check on her.
All that said, if she is screaming and crying and obviously distressed then i wouldnt leave her (in my experience it just makes things worse!).

yawningmonster · 09/09/2010 10:46

Hi my dd is just 16 months too and has been a dreadful sleeper. I wonder if InmaculadaConcepcion is onto something with the idea of company. We are in Nz and recently had a bloody awful earthquake. So the night after it happened we put ds in the spare bed in dd's room so they were together and easy to get to in case of another quake and since then she has only woken once or twice a night?!!!?? Not sure if they are connected but it is something short of miraculous for her!!!

InmaculadaConcepcion · 09/09/2010 12:29

I think a lot of people find that putting the baby in with a sibling helps with their sleep. Go with it!!

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littlelozz · 09/09/2010 19:08

Thanks everyone for your input - was away out today so just got a chance to check.

She already is in with DD1 and we go to her which I think maybe a problem that started when she was little as I was so scared she would wake DD1 up. DD1 was and is a great sleeper now and rarely even budges when DD2 wakes so it might be a thing to leave her a little and see how she goes. Im afraid I dont have much patience sometimes though and just want to get back to sleep :(

Sometimes she just crys out and isnt fully awake to know I am there and other times its like she just doesnt want anyone or anything as refuses the dummy or a bottle. Trying hard not to give her a bottle as she manages to go without at grans.

Today I tried her in DD1's bed for a nap and she went down withouht a bother and slept for an hour so tonight DD1 is at grans house and as I type DD2 is in the bed hopefully already asleep. I am working tomorrow and DH is off so he is going to deal with her all night and I will sleep on the couch. Seems so drastic but its the only way I will get some sleep. But I just know she will sleep all night and still be zonked when I leave for work. In which case I might just cry :(

Will let you know how things go thanks again ladies x x

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