DS1 has always been terrible at settling. As a baby he always fell asleep at the breast and since then falls asleep in his own bed holding my hand every night. Wasn't so much of a problem but we have a 5 month old DS2 who I need to deal with (he has his own issues with day time napping) so don't have a spare hour to sit with DS1 every night. Last night I held his hand for 45 minutes and he still refused to go to sleep. His father also couldn't settle him - he wanted me to sit next to him and refused to sleep until I did so. He also comes into our bed in the middle of the night so none of us get much sleep. He also insists on holding my hand all night which is difficult as I often feed DS2 laying down so end up in some painful contortions! Have tried gradual retreat which worked for a while but our main problem is just keeping him in his room. At some nap times I have put him back in bed 30 or 40 times but he still gets up. It's exhausting. He does still need his day time nap as is yawning and lying on the floor around 11.30/12 and gets very very overtired late afternoon if he hasn't had an hour or so. Can anyone help?