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Evenings and cosleeping

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mollycuddles · 29/08/2010 22:34

Dd2 is 14 weeks tomorrow. We've coslept from the day she came home. She's exclusively bf and a real boob monster. Sleeping is going fine, she feeds every 3-4 hours at night and 2 hours in the day (approx as I dint really count) I'm not that tired and she's really calm and happy in the day, developing beautifully etc etc. But she's started to get tired by 8pm and really needs bath, boob and bed then rather than at 10ish as it's been until now. We don't do routines really apart from getting up when the other dcs get up and that'll be fitting in with school from Tuesday. How do we manage if she's sleeping from 8ish? Should we put her in her (unused) cot at that time, bringing her into bed when I go to bed or wait until she wakens. I'm not happy to leave her on my bed if I'm not there as she's going to start rolling soon but I'm not ready for bed as early as her every night and dh is feeling a bit neglected as it is and that'll just get worse if I go to bed earlier. He thinks we should be putting her in her cot now but I'm not convinced.

Advice appreciated especially from seasoned cosleepers.

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Biccy · 29/08/2010 23:50

Hi. I didn't co sleep with dd, and vowed that if ds wouldn't settle in cot I wouldn't fight it. So we've been co-sleeping since he was a week old. When the time came that he needed bed before I did I put him in his cot. He's rarely slept more than an hour at a time there though I have to say. Not sure that him being in my bed without me would be any better. I then took him with me to bed when he woke around 10.30/11.00. Now he is 7 months and I put him back in cot if he wakes at this point but he still ends up with me in the early hours. But then, I don't want to cosleep indefinitely as I like my own space in bed really, and he is already starting to take up too much of it!

lowrib · 29/08/2010 23:59

We co-sleep. I put DS to bed in his cot, and bring him into bed with us when he wakens (usually about 12 / 1.30) He feeds and goes straight back to sleep. This has worked well for us.

HTH

schipo · 30/08/2010 00:24

Hi molly Smile

I've got no advice but I have been wondering the same thing.

DS1 (13 weeks) somehow settled into his own bed time somewhere between 7pm and 9pm. We go to bed much later. We've been getting him dressed for bed, and putting him down somewhere to sleep with us in the living room until we go to bed. When we're ready to go to bed I give him a boob and a nappy change and then take him up.

I'm wondering how long that can last.

Apart from anything I'm not sure how long he'll be comfortable to sleep through our evenings chatter and entertainment, and there's also the question of furniture. He's outgrown the hammock that was supposed to last for 9 months. ATM he's in a car seat Blush

I'm thinking of getting a cot we can put him in down here Confused

Honeydragon · 30/08/2010 00:38

Baby bjorn babysitter can be used up to age 2 iirc, you could use that for downstairs.

SpeedyGonzalez · 30/08/2010 00:51

Congrats on your DD! Grin

We put DD (16 weeks) in her moses basket in the evenings, then when she wakes, around 2am, I co-sleep. Works brilliantly.

Your DD may take a little time to get used to falling asleep in the cot - try a few things and see what works best for you. Top tip: if she falls asleep e.g. in the sling, then wakes as you're putting her in her cot, try using white noise, such as a detuned radio. You need it on pretty loud, but it will help soothe her back to sleep.

Another thing, when you put her down during the day (not for naps, just to play), put her in the cot from time-to-time so that she gets used to it.

Also I've just bought DD a cuddly teething toy which she can grab and suckle when she's in her basket as that is essential for her to settle to sleep. If you're bfing you could give yours a breast pad and see how that goes, though she may not be able to hold onto it for very long at this age (which is why I bought the toy).

Good luck!

enimod · 30/08/2010 13:42

i have never been sure about this and have always gone to bed when they have before 6 months of age- i thought they had to be in same room as another person to regualte theri breathing or is that a myth? after 6 months- i started to put in cot sneak downstairs then when i went to bed theyd always wake and then cosleep from there

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