3 month old - do they really need to feed in the night?

[Nadene]

i have read that by the age of 3 months, babies don't need anymore night feeds if they go to bed on a full tummy. is this true? my baby is 11weeks and still wakes 2 to 3 times per night. i don't mind feeding her once but i am not convinced she is waking up from hunger. any advive appreciated.

Cod, what drives your friend nuts ?

I always find it funny that the definition of 'sleeping through' is five hours straight. If I user that my dd slept through from about 7 months but in my opinion it was only at about 10 months she stopped waking.

Thank you everyone. dd is 4 mo old and don't believe she has ever slept thru. people were making me paranoid that it was some great goal to have them sleep thru by ooo a month? sick of people saying, is she sleeping thru yet? they were making me feel like some kind of lunatic or maybe sour grapes because I think "she is only a BABY!" if she wakes at 2 am for a cuddle and feed, I will oblige. And pre-baby days I could sleep for England. Of course, sometimes my eyelids are propped up by matchsticks and sometimes she want to play....

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or they say 'is she a good baby', innuendo for 'is she sleeping thru yet' - methinks. I smile sweetly and say 'yesssss'. hell yes, she is a good baby! i didn't know there were any bad ones, i wish I could add.

Another one I hate is are they an "easy baby"

It's not the be all and end all anyway.

My friend's ds slept through from a few weeks old to being 2. He's woken every night since (he's 5 now). She has no idea why.

dd & ds just woke every night from birth and got me used to it

I hate the 'easy' & 'good' baby thing too.

Tolerated it with dd, snapped back, 'No, he's really naughty' with ds, very sarcastically (that's what no sleep does to you!!) as I was SO annoyed with the stupid questions by then.

Mogwai - I sympathise with you not being able to fall back to sleep straight away. I was like that as well, and even couldn't sleep in the day because I was so wound up. My solution is to do some exercise in the day (good for seratonin levels) and don't sleep in the day which means by night time your body is so ready to sleep that it can't possibly stay awake. I mean don't tire yourself out completely but this definitely worked for me. But this works for me because I don't have any other kids so I can go to bed at 8pm every night if I want.

when people ask me that I say, 'he's a lovely baby. I'm knackered mind, as being a BF baby he still wakes up a lot at night' I tend to glare at people (including my new HV on our first meeting) daring them to comment further. I hate the way that some people take my I'm tired comment a s a cue to point out what a crap mother I muast be just because my infant doesn't sleep all night.

As Clayhead says, its not the be all and end all.
Many mothers I know, cope much better than I do , on what appears to be only about 3 hours sleep !!

And don't worry.
I'm sure I'll be knockered off my sanctimonious stool soon....
Either, we'll get to the 'terrible two's' and my little treasure will turn into a monster.....
Or we will decide to have another child and we will get the devil child !!!!!

Everyone gets, only what they can cope with - someone once said to me !!!

about the "easy" or "good" baby question. I answer honestly, and then you should see their faces. Clearly they expect the answer "yes". But ds2 is not easy. And while I think he's good, I know that he doesn't fit into what they're asking about!

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ds is 13 weeks and i stopped feeding him at night last week, he still has a 'dream feed' at 10.30pm, and used to wake at about 3am ish. but he has turned into such a lazy feeder during the day, he's bottle fed as when i tried to breast feed, he just fell asleep! he was starting to not be interetsed in milk during the day, so dropped the night feed. had about 3-4 unsettled nights but he's now got the picture.

When I had my baby my GP told me that in France they don't feed at night from day 1!! Couldn't bear to try it myself but it's a thought.