Saying a sad goodbye to co-sleeping

[Fibilou]

My back just can't take anymore. DD takes up the majority of the middle of the bed and I end up clutching at a titchy bit of mattress - and with my head on the pillow not on the bed but on the bedside table. I am sleeping so badly. DH has always hated it as he is afraid he will squash her. So she has gone to bed in the cot tonight (in our bedroom) after quite a bit of protest. She slept absolutely fine in her basinette and loves playing in the cot in the daytime so hopefully she will get used to it quickly and settle easily.

I'm just so sad though, I love going to sleep snuggled up to her

Me too :( DD has started being settled in her cot after we discovered the magic trick to settling her :) I sleep badly, DH is in the other room so the plan is that she will start sleeping through but at the moment she's usually in on first wake. But I love sleeping holding her little hand or stroking her hair, and I will miss that a lot.

Oh sweet -- and sad.

How old is she?

We have a bedside cot for DD (only little, not yet rolling or anything). I wish we had had it with DS -- it is lovely because she is still "with" us but there is loads more room.

I've heard that some people just take the side off a normal cot and push it up to the bed -- think you can even drill new mattress holes to bring it up to the level of your mattress. Hassle but possibly worth it. Or ebay your cot and get a bedside one ... (I know, profligate and reckless)

Anyway, commiserations; I know I'll shed a wee tear when DD is no longer a little sleepy friend in the bed with us.

It does feel sad doesn't it formally making that change. But don't worry too much, it won't be the last time you'll be cuddled up with her at night I can guarantee that . My nearly 4 year old still creeps in with us some nights.

she's just been 6 months. DH is keen to get her into her own room but I said that is not happening until she starts sleeping through

forties (am loving your name btw) DH works shifts which include nights so no doubt I will bring her into the bed with me when it's just to two of us

SPB, are you stalking me ?

How do you get your DD to settle in teh cot ?

DH has discovered it in the last few days.
He puts her down and when she starts crying he says "No, no, DD, sleep time" in a firm voice. Then when she stops crying (which miraculously she does) he reads to her or just holds her hand and she falls asleep.
I'm getting there with it, she stops crying but doesn't seem to go to sleep. I'm too soft and I feed her, which I'm not going to stop for a while - plus she has a cough so coughs herself awake.

None of this worked for DS! He was fed to sleep until about 2yo I think!

It's funny that SPB, DD wil go down in the cot for MIL and my parents when they babysit but not for me. I feed her to sleep and of course I can't feed her in the cot whereas they can do it with the bottle. DH suggested giving her EBM for the bedtime feed but I don't want to do that as obviously it's not as sleep inducing as "live" milk

oh you poor thing

I was very sad when I put gecko into a bed when she was two

but it wasn't stopping cosleeping completely because as soon as she wakes she comes into my bed so it was just that she goes to bed in her bed at a proper time

She has just woken up and I have suceeded in settling her back down without feeding her :)

Don't worry- the first hint of 'noisy' weather and 9 year old ds is in our bed like a rat up a drainpipe. And a few weeeks ago , dp was away and dd came into bed with me and she's 14!