14 month old suddenly refusing bed

[digggers]

Hello!

My 14 month old ds has always gone to bed awake and self settled without any fuss atall at 730pm. Apart from the last week, when suddenly we have an hour or so of crying?

Just wondering is 14 months a common age for this to happen? Is it a developmental thing? He's also started refusing naps in the last week or so, and had a couple of nights of night waking too. What's going on?

A phase that will pass? We're trying to just stay calm and consistent and take it in turn to go in give him a cuddle , lie him down and tauck him back in. He just continues either chatting to himself or crying angrily till he's exhausted and passes out. Tis horrible. Been dead lucky so far I acknowledge, but I'm struggling to see what's changed?

Any perspectives?

Likewise solidarity Digggers. Any teeth coming through? May be developmental in which case let's hope it passes very soon.

thanks little duck, hope it passes for you too soon

No teeth on the move as far as I can see.

Some changes that I can think of are,

-that me and his dad have swapped childcare, he's been made redundant and i'm working full time.
-He had his first night away from us last weekend, stayed over night at his grandparents. Apparently he was fine.

Could it be separation anxiety?

40 minutes of crying so far tonight. Is this just him exerting his independence and seeing what happens? He's definately tired, and has a 45 minute bedtime routine that he's had since the beginning, so surely he knows that bed is coming? I don't get it!

You are not alone my usally lovely 14 month is now really making his presence known! we are 35 minutes in tonight with no let up, but he's my third and it is just a phase and will pass (honestly it will!)

Same age, same issue... weird he was fine til about 3 weeks ago, tbh I'm putting most of it down to teeth and the weather...

There is a 55 week sleep regression: see here.

my daughter is 18 months and we cannot get her to bed,she has just gone down about 30 minutes ago, and we have this night after night, in the end we have to lie with her until she falls asleep.
Are we being unfair to leave her in her rom to cry as this is what our health visitor is advising?

bexbm, I sound like a right bore (okay, I am ) but there is a BIG sleep regression at 18 months too. See here. I think it is partly related to the brain development which means that there is a lot of separation anxiety which suddenly appears at this age.

Personally I'd ignore your HV. It will pass.

Last two nights he's gone to bed ok, but refused afternoon naps and been awake screaming blue murder a couple of hours in the night,

aaaagh

Seems ok now. For anyone going thru similar, it lasted 2-3 weeks, and prompted me to change him from two naps to one. Since doing that he's gone back to his old sleeping pattern at night and settled happily again.

Thanks to all that sympathised x