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14 month old DD suddenly started waking in night - help!

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littleduck · 20/07/2010 19:36

For last 4 nights DD has woken in the night crying, at different times each night ranging from 1am to 5am and staying awake for up to an hour. Previous to this she has slept through from around 7 to 6.30 or so since about 4 months with very few exceptions for illness and such like.

The crying is not a really upset or that hight pitched cry they use when they are ill, it's not a hungry cry either. It will start with her crying loudly for say 5 seconds and then she stops - for up to around 10 mins then will repeat. So we had had occasions where I have heard her cry, got up, waited outside her door for a few minutes and heard no cry, thought she had settled herself and just gone back to bed when it starts again. Don't think it's dreaming or night terrors as she is awake when I go into her room and although crying she is not as upset as I would expect her to be if it had been a bad dream.

First night I really wasn't sure what the problem was as I hadn't seen the tiny edge of tooth that had cut - nappy wasn't dirty, she wasn't too hot or cold, wasn't thirsty and refused offered water. She stopped crying when she heard me come into her room and held out her arms for a cuddle. I picked her up and she snuggled into me and as I was half asleep I stroked her head until she was quite relaxed and went to put her back in the cot - at which point she started crying again. Cuddled her some more and as I was half asleep hadn't noticed she had fallen asleep on me so put her back into cot and this time she didn't wake.

On the 3 subsequent nights she has stopped crying as soon as we pick her up and snuggles into DP or I quite happily, only protesting when we try to put her back into the cot. LAst night she even went back into the cot quite happily but then let out a 5 second cry some minutes later after a little bit of chatting. She then cried again and it sounded like a very cross cry as I hadn't gone into her. Each time we make sure she's not too hot or cold, check nappy (although dirty nappy in night never normally wakes her), offer water which she has refused apart from tiny sip and there is nothing obviously wrong. On previous occasions when something is really wrong (ill/explosive nappy/cold/hot) she just keeps crying and doesn't stop and start like she is now. She sometimes lets out odd cries in the night but if she has woken she has managed to settle herself without needing us as far as we know.

I can see she is cutting an incisor next to her two existing bottom teeth - however we maybe only had 1 or 2 difficult nights when she cut her existing 6 teeth so if it is teething then this is a new one on us. Have given her Calpol when she has woken for past 3 nights but the crying pattern has continued throughout.

I wonder however if she has decided it is much more fun to wait for Mummy or Daddy to come and give her a cuddle when she wakes rather than trying to settle herself and is starting to make a habit of it. She is very clingy at the moment especially with me so may be looking for attention. Spoke to her keyworker at nursery about the situation this evening and she thought it might be the case.

Basically looking for any thoughts and tips - especially if she is playing silly devils. DP and I are both starting to feel pretty shattered and are finding it hard to cope at work as we both wake when she cries and find it v hard to get back to sleep even when she is settled.

Any help much appreciated

PS I totally take my hat off to anyone who has to cope with regular/frequent night wakings - I know how lucky we have been and can only admire your fortitude as I am shattered after only 4 nights!

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digggers · 20/07/2010 20:02

hello! No answers just solidarity. I also have a 14 month old who has gone a bit wonky sleep wise the last week. Suddenly refusing to go to bed , when he's always always self settled with no fuss atall. He's woken a couple of times at night and really early too.

What is going on?

AngelDog · 20/07/2010 21:52

Sounds like the 55 week sleep regression to me: here.

littleduck · 26/07/2010 16:57

Hmmm - bumping as problems still ongoing, DD has woken up every night for the past 10 days having slept through before. She goes to bed fine and sleeps fine from then until she wakes usually between 1 and 4 am. Again no constant crying but intermittent with short bursts of crying, about 5 secs, followed by periods of silence.

Net result is I am awake for around 2 hours each night and am on my knees with tiredness such that my work is starting to suffer as I am too tired to think properly and my job needs a lot of thought and a clear head.

Please please any thoughts/tips welcome. Can't be the heat as was much hotter in recent weeks and she was fine. She has just cut a tooth (bottom incisor) and has a snuffle but again she cut her other incisors top and bottom without this disturbance and usually sleeps well even with a cold.

Her nap patterns and general daily routine are just the same as before.

Many thanks

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maxpower · 26/07/2010 17:05

unfortunately babies go through random phases of poor sleeping. My DD slept perfectly from 10 weeks until probably 18 months then had us up every night for the best part of a year. Sadly I don't think there's a magic cure, it's just something you have to ride out.

CoteDAzur · 26/07/2010 17:07

Give her paracetamol before bed and see if that helps.

littleduck · 26/07/2010 18:46

Thanks for thoughts - however I am practically in tears at the thought of another year of this as we depend on my salary to pay our bills and my work is already suffering after only 10 days of night wakings.

Have given calpol before bed but doesn't make a difference as she settles fine at bedtime anyway and the effects would have worn off long before she wakes much later in the night, I imagine.

Any other tips?

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maxpower · 26/07/2010 18:57

It is tough littleduck and I sympathise with you. For us, it came to the stage where we had to change our routines - going to bed earlier so we got more sleep and were better able to cope. Not sure if you have a DP but if so, alternate who gets up to her each night.

maxpower · 26/07/2010 18:59

sorry just seen you do have a DP. You might have to try a bit of tough love and not go to her so she learns it isn't a game.

littleduck · 26/07/2010 19:10

Thanks maxpower. The problems is that if DP goes to her I still wake up when she cries and stay awake until he comes back into the room having settled her. I then find it hard to get back to sleep afterwards.

I am tempted not to go to her and just leave her but I tried that one night and the intermittent crying went on for an hour - I felt awful for leaving her in case there was something wrong like being too hot or something.

Just don't know what to do for the best

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maxpower · 26/07/2010 20:12

It is horrible I know, I've been there. If it's any consolation, your body and mind will adjust to the sleep deprivation if it goes on for a while. You and DP will have to negotiate some lie-ins or naps at the weekend to top your sleep up. Just hope it's a blip and she'll settle back into a nice routine quick enough. Good luck

BlueFergie · 26/07/2010 20:42

littleduck - Do you think it is pain that is waking her? My DS seems to get little jolts of pain that wake him up and can need a cuddle to console him, but it doesn't seem to be constant as he goes back asleep after. When he is teething like that I give him Baby Neurofen (Calpol never worked for him) before bed and it seems to do the trick. It lasts 8 hours so it may get her over the hump?
Other than that all you can do is go to bed earlier and try give each other lie ins at the weekend, as others have suggested.

littlemissindecisive · 27/07/2010 20:02

My DD did the same at 14 months....for 4months! Turned out her nap wasn't late enough in the day, she was totally overtired and therefore couldn;t settle herself when she woke in the night. She would go to bed fine, then from 1or2am be awake crying and moaning for 2 to 3 hours. I moved her nap to later in the afternoon and straight away she slept through again.

Worth a try? When does she nap and for how long?

Debs276 · 08/09/2018 05:23

Following the last post I also have a 14 month old who’s stopped sleeping through, she has kept through since 4 weeks and have been soooo lucky and like you say take our hats off to people who have this a lot, pretty much since she’s turned one we have nights on and off where she wakes sometimes up to 6 hours a night 😫 sometimes she’s upset so we give her nurofen sometimes she’s just wide awake and there is absolutely no settling her! She doesn’t even nap more in the day, usually only has half an hour occasionally an hour, we’re really struggling with how to get her back to sleep, some night she’ll sleep through but it’s we don’t keep our hopes up coz the next night she’ll wake again, tonight she woke at 3 and went back to sleep for 5 mins so we just got up with her, pulling our hair out

Sleepypoppettimes2 · 14/11/2018 07:04

My LG is exactly the same at the moment, she has recently cut her right insisor and 2 back molars but she did this during having a cold and she settled back to sleep with calpol ... this week now all these are cut she’s just waking and crying. She is quite a stubborn girl so I know this isn’t going to be easy to crack.
Myself and other half took it in turns last night to go in and pop her dummy back (which she threw across the room a few times in temper) offered water and then laid her down (to which she arched and screamed.
Each time I’ve given her a cuddle settles her tears put her down and it’s ww3 again ... I am being strong and walking out and going back to bed but it’s so difficult I’m hoping this will soon work :-(
FYI she stayed at Nanna’s on Saturday and slept straight through from 7pm until 7am ! Typical

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