I'm at the end of my tether. Feel like I've tried everything aaaargh!!!

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Baby no 4. 11 months old. Happy, secure contented child

Bf. Co slept for 6 months. Self weaned at 7 and settled happily in her own room and cot. I could simply feed her then pop her in her cot and she'd fall asleep on her own.

I think the problems started when she learnt to stand.

As soon as I lay her down, she stands up! I've tried restricting her day time naps. Keeping her up later, putting her down earlier, thinking she's over tired

Her eyes literally are rolling when she's having her last bottle and cuddle. As soon as I attempt to put her in cot she gets very upset.

I've tried standing over her cot with my hand on her chest unti, she fell asleep, next night, hand through cot bars on her chest, next night held her hand, next just sat next to her cot. This seemed to be working then she caught a gastric bug and ended up sleeping in my bed, DH in spare room

We then found the on,y to settle her was to take her out for a walk in the buggy. Been doing this for nearly 2 wks. Last night as last resort I tried cc. It worked after 30 mins. Tonight tried the same. She didn't sound as upset as last night but when I went in to soothe her, whilst cuddling her she stuck her finger down her throat and combined with crying, threw up everywhere.

She's currently asleep in the hallway in her buggy having been taken out for a walk

Any advice?

Pretty please

Pretty pretty please

when ds stopped wanting to sleep in his cot we just took him back into our bed and cuddled him to sleep. he's still there at 2.5yo but he goes off to sleep in 10 minutes and stays asleep all night.

is she teething?

She seems to have been cutting teeth for months. She has 9 teeth now. But she doesn't exhibit typical signs of teething ie red cheeks, dribbling and chewing excessively.

Argh. Can't say for definite though!!!

I would try giving calpol half an hour before bed just to see what happened.

We introduced a cuddly with DD, that was quite useful.

sorry, I meant to offer some sympathy too

Thanks

I've tried calpol.

She has cuddlies in her bed.

I sooooooo desperately want my evenings back

Hello

We had the same trouble with our 9 month old DD a couple of weeks ago - had been self settling, then out of nowhere started getting really upset when we laid her down in her cot - so much so, she vomited several nights in a row.

We did the put down method ie every time she stood up we just gently laid her back down again. But never picked her up. I also would stroke her face and say shhhhhh. I gave her no eye contact at any time. The first night we did it, it took about 45 minutes,the second night was about 30 minutes (and must have laid her back down 50 plus times!!) She now seems to be better. Still takes a while to settle, but doesn't cry when I leave the room and will play in her cot for a while instead. Usually about 20 minutes later I'll hear her cry, I'll go in, put a dummy in and she'll go straight to sleep.

I don't mind as long as the vomiting stops (horrible when you have to then get them up to bath them and change all the sheets - only then to start off again when you get them back to bed).

We only do this of an evening. Got to say to get her to sleep during the day, she still falls asleep either in the car, in the pram or in my arms!

Thank you knickyknocks (love your name!! DH calls me that sometimes! )

I'll give that a go.

I'm a bit anxious as DH is going away tomorrow for a wk. Not sure how I'll cope!!

Oh you poor thing. I know what it's like to have your DH go away - my DP works on shifts and I don't see him for 3 or 4 nights in a row. Means you have to do the whole self settling thing by yourself. It can be really draining.

Do whatever keeps you sane and if you want to leave trying any new method until your DH gets back, then do - a week won't make any difference and it'd probably be nice to have the support when he returns. Then at least you can take turns.