MNHQ, a suggestion regarding the 'conception' board.

[MiowandPur]

I posted on there about possibly being unexpectedly pregnant after a condom mishap, this was met with a cry of me being 'insensitive'.

How ever I feel there will be alot of women who have 'accidents' and want to talk about waiting to test afterwards and 'conception' seemed the only place for me to talk about that.

Perhaps there should be a 'conception' board - to talk about the process of conception and any other issues.

and a 'trying for a baby' board for those who are activly trying to concieve.

I think on such wide and varied board you are going to offend one person or another no matter what you post or where you post it.

It is understandable if you have been trying for a baby for years with no luck to find it galling(to say the least) when other people end up pregnant by mistake.

Not suggesting you posted trying to upset or were being flippant about making mistakes, I haven't read your thread BTW, but the vast majority or people on the conception boards are actively trying for babies.

I understand that but its not labled as a 'TTC' board its 'conception' and that is possibly what has happened.

So where are women that aren't TTC but find themselves possibly pregnant supposed to post if the 'conception' board is mostly ladies trying for a baby?

I wouldn't want to upset anyone, but at the same time am in an upsetting situation myself and was looking for support and answers to my questions.

The way I see it, there is a pregnancy board for those who are pregnant/possibly pregnant and a conception board for those who wish they were pregnant.

I agree Kaloki - the best place for the op's thread would be 'preganancy' - or possibly relationships depending on the nature of the problem. I do think though that those who found her thread upsetting have a responsibility to themselves to manage their feelings without attacking someone plainly also having a horrible time even if it's a different time from them and one that they would love.

but the OP didn't know if she was pregnant, and it wasn't a "relationship" issue - she was waiting to see if her AF turned up/waiting to test.

I agree with tocc,pregnancy board is for those who ARE pregnant, conception is for those who suspect they may be or are trying to be.

I posted a similar issue in conception and got a kind response.

But I think we need a unplanned pregnency topic to post this sort of sensitive issue.

what about the antenatal tests/ options area?

Yes perhaps an unplanned pregnancy area. Because you take something like termination for instance. People don't like it in a wider topic like chat, it's certainly not appropriate in pregnancy, antenatal tests and choices is largely populated by people who have had to terminate for or deal with problematic pregnancies and it's hard for them to see.

It is difficult because in an ideal world there would be room for everybody and people would be responsible for their own feelings whilst allowing for paths that other people are walking. But if offence is being regularly caused and there's a way round it, then maybe that's the better path.

I agree with show of hands it is quite a emotive topic and I think people who have had no choice to terminate, people who are trying to get pg, or people who are pg are offended by termination.

A unplanned pg board would enable people to mull around their feelings and decide with advice the best option for them.

I do have to say, having read the OP that this is referencing. I think the problems is that it was phrased in a way that suggested that termination was the intended end product, which is not really the best topic for the conception forum.

I assume from the OP's later posts that this isn't the case, however I can see why the start of the thread would upset people who are TTC

I read the op that this was referencing but do not see how any one could judge whether the op would terminate. When you have a accident you go through a whole range of emotions. But I definitely think that as different people seem to be taking this in different ways we need a separate board for this.

I have seen many to terminate or not to terminate threads in AIBU which IMO is not ideal.

Bump for MNHQ.

Hello
Thanks for the suggestion
We'll take a look at this.

any more thought MNHQ?

I was trying to find a "contraception" or "family planning" topic for aaages the other day.
I assumed there must be one somewhere-it's a big part of being a parent IMO.

HI there
Sorry for the delay in coming back to you - we think that the AN tests/ choices topic is the immediate choice.
Do you think it should have a better name?

Ok Olivia but can I just say that as someone who went through a termination due to abnormalities (and found Mn a safe haven for me at that time) - I would have reacted badly to seeing a thread about unwanted pregnancy. In fact the more I think about it the more I think it is unbelievably crass - there are women (and men) on there that are crazed with grief and loss so to suggest posting about there is insensitive to put it mildly(callous also springs to mind).

I think that although this is a problem that obviously needs sharing it is One that deserves it's own area .

I agree with Poppy. Putting it in the AN tests section would be very wrong. Most women will be trying to make very tough decisions about what to do with a wanted pregnancy.

A family planning board would be much better.

Yes, another vote for family planning. We could talk about how to choose contreception and so on as well. Just because we have kids, doesn't mean we want or indeed could cope with more.

Also agree with family planning

Family planning sounds like a very sensible suggestion.

I agree wth Poppy too. Ante-natal tests is not the place for this and neither is conception. A place of its own is called for.

Okey dokes. We'll go for Family planning in the Health topic. Thanks very much for the input all.

Ta-da!