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The MN Mail Column - what we think, and what we plan to do next...

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JustineMumsnet · 16/08/2009 00:00

Evening all - sorry for general absence today - niece's birthday do, packing for hol etc, etc.

So, thank you to everyone for your input on this particular issue. It's been a thought-provoking debate and clearly strong views prevail about exactly how much of a enhanced security risk publication of this column means to Mumsnetters.

We tend in broad terms to come down on the side of the risk being pretty much as it ever was fence but we also buy the argument that there is certainly an increased risk of identification/embarrassment or worse for the OP of a chosen thread - particularly if it of a very personal nature.

We would say as we always have that you should always bear in mind this is a public forum, searchable by Google, legally quotable by all and linkable to by all and sundry.

Clearly having an open forum brings with it risks but it also brings with it great benefits we've always felt. Openness means volume of users and volume of users means Mumsnet in its many guises is available to anyone who needs advice 24-7. It also means fresh faces, differing points of view and debate, and the wisdom that comes from a very big crowd - wrong or dangerous advice doesn't tend to last very long on MN.

Whether the risks outweigh the rewards for each individual only they can decide. Clearly there are basic things you can and should do to protect yourself (ie not reveal basic contact info, namechange to reveal personal stuff etc etc). And bear in mind we are always happy to delete injudicious posts - just report them if you're worried about having revealed too much.

Putting the general risk stuff to one side however, we recognise that many folk (understandably) have qualms not just about being quoted in general but being quoted by the Daily Mail in particular.

If I could just reiterate that this column was not our idea and neither did we know anything about it until it appeared. Neither the journalist involved nor anyone from the DM contacted us about running it beforehand. (And if those of you who are convinced we're lying to you about that keep on impugning our good name, there's nowt for it, we're going to have to sue you for libel ).

In fact the first contact we had was this week (only after the column was brought to our attention by a Mumsnet thread about it) when I wrote to the author of the item in question - whose name we recognised as a Mumsnetter - to ask whether the Mail were planning on this being a regular thing.

At that point we, wrongly we now think having had a chat with a lawyer, didn't believe that we had any redress anyway (see endless posts about the journalistic defense of fair use) but we were, privately, a little surprised that they'd not consulted us.

Whilst we shared/share some of your misgivings about the idea of a MN-DM collaboration, I was, for sure heartened by the fact that the item was being written by a Mumsnetter who, though I don't know her personally, always seemed to be well respected by lots of Mumsnetters. I am quite sure after a couple of email exchanges with Leah Hardy, that she has/had no wish to sensationalise events on Mumsnet and that she would endeavour to protect people's identities. I'm also sure that she didn't feel she was compromising anyone's identity more than they'd already been compromised by posting on a public forum. We do think some of the comments about her have been overly harsh. After all many on here do that she's done nowt wrong in lifting quotes save perhaps for not consulting with us at HQ. That may be because she wouldn't think we could possibly object to her giving Mumsnet weekly publicity - as I've said before most websites/PRs would be in a frenzy of excitement about the Daily Mail doing a weekly column about them. But I don't know that's why, I'm just speculating. She could equally have meant to and forgotten or the dog could have eaten her email. It would be better if she'd come on to talk for herself than me blathering on - maybe she will at some point.

Whatever, we don't think that her actions deserve the general vilification/ outings/ witchunt she's received - bet there are a fair few MN journalists who would love a crack the same gig - maybe for a different publication, but still.

Anyhoo that's all history - sorry for banging on but wanted to be clear - the real question now is what next?

Well... we tend to agree with the view that it's this is not an ideal collaboration for Mumsnet - particularly as we have no editorial control over what gets chosen/ printed etc. So we plan to contact the daily mail on Monday and let them know have we feel about it. We promise to keep you posted about their response.

That's it really. Tanks again to all for your input - please don't interpret any future periods of silence as us hiding under the bed, swigging from the bottle and hoping things go away. It's much more likely to be because I'm going off on hols tomorrow and we're thin on the ground and the DM may not respond straight way but I'll aim to make some calls as soon as I'm on board ship!

ps a few more answers to some direct questions...

Someone asked about stats in response to the DM column. Our stats for thursday don't seem to show any marked influx of new people either in page impressions or new registrations

MaggieBeauLeo asked about a facility to allow members to delete their own posts - we don't think it works for a board like ours tbh - if you're catching up with a thread and the post that someone's agreeing with/taken issue with has been deleted it essentially makes a nonsense of the boards...

Someone else asked about making search for nicknames available only to those who'd paid a CAT. It's certainly a thought but we'd hate to make MN function less well for the majority unless it was for something really wanted by folk - we would welcome further thoughts.

As said we are working on private boards for particular subject groups - which would not be easily mineable for quotes or indexable by Google - they should be here in a couple of months at the latest. We'll keep you posted about their ETA and how they'll work.

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KingCanuteIAmAndTheDMCanFOff · 17/08/2009 17:51

VVVQ, I know nothing about mouldies or mouldiegate so I tend to just skim past those bits.

Interesting what you say about deletions, because they do refuse to delete, in fact thecurrent stance (and the stance I have met in the past) is simply to ignore requests to delete.... I am heartened by your thoughts though, I have beenvstuck wondering if deletion is too much to ask, if it will take many man hours etc.

KingCanuteIAmAndTheDMCanFOff · 17/08/2009 17:53

Ooh, I picked up mouldies from somewhere, sorry about that - I am usually quite careful of that one!

IdontMN2makecopyforlazyjournos · 17/08/2009 17:53

So those of us who have concerns with this should request all past posts be deleted, and do what if they refuse? Because I don't think there is anything we can do.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 17/08/2009 17:59

Mass database deletions take seconds. Really. I know this - my DH manages servers and databases.

It's not labour intensive AT ALL. I suspect that the reason MNHQ ask folks to pinpoint specific posts rather than doing a blanket deletion is more to do with deterrent than anything else. I honestly can't see what their problem is with accommodating a few who feel they have divulged much to much in previous years - pre-SWMNBN etc.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 17/08/2009 18:03

I asked for my posts to be deleted and told it would be too difficult for them and take too long.

Aitchiswaitingforalegalopinion · 17/08/2009 18:06

not wanting to wind you up veev but actually someone did just that to me, posted a nasty thing and then deleted it.

wrt that kind of behaviour i'd say well, if i hadn't seen it i wouldn't have known so who cares? and i did see it so i called her on it. no biggie.

KingCanuteIAmAndTheDMCanFOff · 17/08/2009 18:07

Lucky you, I asked them to delete posts they had already said they would delete but never got round to and was ignored - again.

The thing is, I don't really understand why it would take long, all namechanges show up under one account (so threads you post on under a different name show on your threads I am on) so that bit can't be hard, isn't it just a case of calling up the posts and hitting delete?

Maybe I am oversimplifying?

IdontMN2makecopyforlazyjournos · 17/08/2009 18:11

From what little I know of databases, and from what VVV says (who seems to know quite a bit) it would be very easy for them to do indeed. I repeat my question, for those of us who are unhappy, we know they are going to refuse, what can we do?

I think I am going to see what if anything MN have to say for themselves in the next few days and then I'll almost certainly be following Swedes in deregging, and just be glad I've been pretty guarded on the whole about very personal stuff.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 17/08/2009 18:13

I don't remember aitch, but I don't think I could hold my hand up and say that I've never said something in the heat of the moment and then realised I shouldn't have posted. In fact, I think it demonstrates that the person was wrong to have said it, tbh. That's by the by though really.

It certainly not something that has happened a lot - clearly Else I'd remember. I certainly don't see the relevance of dragging mouldies into this - it's a bit smoke and mirrors really and commenting on how it works as a comparison of how not to do something when the person in question purportedly was only a member for a day is pretty astounding. Like I said, hearsay.

arentyouboredyet · 17/08/2009 18:14

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 17/08/2009 18:18

It is really that simple. You call up the username, select the delete function, confirm you want to do it - et voila. DH doesn't like to do it much - once gone - gone forever unless you are really good at the forensic stuff. (which, before anyone worries - is something that can be done on the server, not the www).

It is possible to hide things from google search too.

But, I can see perfectly clearly why mnhq wouldnt want to do that - it's how they drum up business, innit

madameDefarge · 17/08/2009 18:18

Ooh, arentyoubored yet, can I out you?

VeniVidiVickiQV · 17/08/2009 18:18

And yet, you Just Can't Drag Yourself Away... [rubbernecker]

Blondeshavemorefun · 17/08/2009 18:20

have to say that I am not too happy about possibly having my posts or dear friends on here posts copied and flung out for all to read in the dm.

what i REALLY dont understand is if this LH is such a good respected MN - why on earth did she do this?

surely she must have known it would upset and piss off a lot of people

my posts are normally trying to help or funny ones (pets) but for someone to have their posts dragged up from MC, SN, relatioships etc etc will be very hurtful

arentyouboredyet · 17/08/2009 18:20

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IdontMN2makecopyforlazyjournos · 17/08/2009 18:23

Doesn't it concern you then bored? Not even a little bit?

KingCanuteIAmAndTheDMCanFOff · 17/08/2009 18:26

AYBY, aren't we self limiting to one or two threads now?

If that is the case what difference does it make to you? Or do you just like to make sure your name is in nice and regularly?

arentyouboredyet · 17/08/2009 18:31

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madameDefarge · 17/08/2009 18:33
VeniVidiVickiQV · 17/08/2009 18:33

I think everyone who has asked for their posts to be deleted wishes it would end too. I dont think they've had a satisfactory answer, and they dont feel they've had a satisfactory response either.

When there has been clarity from MNHQ about what's what, and what t & c's mean, then I think it will calm down.

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 17/08/2009 18:33

It bothers me more how people might use my more personal posts against me than anything else.

KingCanuteIAmAndTheDMCanFOff · 17/08/2009 18:35

Lol - well if the posters are not to your taste you know what you can do don't you?

Luckily for you most of the "moaney" ones are contained at the moment so you can just click hide a couple of times and go play with all the nice stable ones can't you?

VeniVidiVickiQV · 17/08/2009 18:36

Or, you could stir up a shit-storm and start it all over again.....?

arentyouboredyet · 17/08/2009 18:36

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