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The MN Mail Column - what we think, and what we plan to do next...

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JustineMumsnet · 16/08/2009 00:00

Evening all - sorry for general absence today - niece's birthday do, packing for hol etc, etc.

So, thank you to everyone for your input on this particular issue. It's been a thought-provoking debate and clearly strong views prevail about exactly how much of a enhanced security risk publication of this column means to Mumsnetters.

We tend in broad terms to come down on the side of the risk being pretty much as it ever was fence but we also buy the argument that there is certainly an increased risk of identification/embarrassment or worse for the OP of a chosen thread - particularly if it of a very personal nature.

We would say as we always have that you should always bear in mind this is a public forum, searchable by Google, legally quotable by all and linkable to by all and sundry.

Clearly having an open forum brings with it risks but it also brings with it great benefits we've always felt. Openness means volume of users and volume of users means Mumsnet in its many guises is available to anyone who needs advice 24-7. It also means fresh faces, differing points of view and debate, and the wisdom that comes from a very big crowd - wrong or dangerous advice doesn't tend to last very long on MN.

Whether the risks outweigh the rewards for each individual only they can decide. Clearly there are basic things you can and should do to protect yourself (ie not reveal basic contact info, namechange to reveal personal stuff etc etc). And bear in mind we are always happy to delete injudicious posts - just report them if you're worried about having revealed too much.

Putting the general risk stuff to one side however, we recognise that many folk (understandably) have qualms not just about being quoted in general but being quoted by the Daily Mail in particular.

If I could just reiterate that this column was not our idea and neither did we know anything about it until it appeared. Neither the journalist involved nor anyone from the DM contacted us about running it beforehand. (And if those of you who are convinced we're lying to you about that keep on impugning our good name, there's nowt for it, we're going to have to sue you for libel ).

In fact the first contact we had was this week (only after the column was brought to our attention by a Mumsnet thread about it) when I wrote to the author of the item in question - whose name we recognised as a Mumsnetter - to ask whether the Mail were planning on this being a regular thing.

At that point we, wrongly we now think having had a chat with a lawyer, didn't believe that we had any redress anyway (see endless posts about the journalistic defense of fair use) but we were, privately, a little surprised that they'd not consulted us.

Whilst we shared/share some of your misgivings about the idea of a MN-DM collaboration, I was, for sure heartened by the fact that the item was being written by a Mumsnetter who, though I don't know her personally, always seemed to be well respected by lots of Mumsnetters. I am quite sure after a couple of email exchanges with Leah Hardy, that she has/had no wish to sensationalise events on Mumsnet and that she would endeavour to protect people's identities. I'm also sure that she didn't feel she was compromising anyone's identity more than they'd already been compromised by posting on a public forum. We do think some of the comments about her have been overly harsh. After all many on here do that she's done nowt wrong in lifting quotes save perhaps for not consulting with us at HQ. That may be because she wouldn't think we could possibly object to her giving Mumsnet weekly publicity - as I've said before most websites/PRs would be in a frenzy of excitement about the Daily Mail doing a weekly column about them. But I don't know that's why, I'm just speculating. She could equally have meant to and forgotten or the dog could have eaten her email. It would be better if she'd come on to talk for herself than me blathering on - maybe she will at some point.

Whatever, we don't think that her actions deserve the general vilification/ outings/ witchunt she's received - bet there are a fair few MN journalists who would love a crack the same gig - maybe for a different publication, but still.

Anyhoo that's all history - sorry for banging on but wanted to be clear - the real question now is what next?

Well... we tend to agree with the view that it's this is not an ideal collaboration for Mumsnet - particularly as we have no editorial control over what gets chosen/ printed etc. So we plan to contact the daily mail on Monday and let them know have we feel about it. We promise to keep you posted about their response.

That's it really. Tanks again to all for your input - please don't interpret any future periods of silence as us hiding under the bed, swigging from the bottle and hoping things go away. It's much more likely to be because I'm going off on hols tomorrow and we're thin on the ground and the DM may not respond straight way but I'll aim to make some calls as soon as I'm on board ship!

ps a few more answers to some direct questions...

Someone asked about stats in response to the DM column. Our stats for thursday don't seem to show any marked influx of new people either in page impressions or new registrations

MaggieBeauLeo asked about a facility to allow members to delete their own posts - we don't think it works for a board like ours tbh - if you're catching up with a thread and the post that someone's agreeing with/taken issue with has been deleted it essentially makes a nonsense of the boards...

Someone else asked about making search for nicknames available only to those who'd paid a CAT. It's certainly a thought but we'd hate to make MN function less well for the majority unless it was for something really wanted by folk - we would welcome further thoughts.

As said we are working on private boards for particular subject groups - which would not be easily mineable for quotes or indexable by Google - they should be here in a couple of months at the latest. We'll keep you posted about their ETA and how they'll work.

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madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 20:51

Exactly, morningpaper.

LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 20:51

'Course they could, but over the years that ahsn't happened so it does feel a bit like Woah! where did that come from (except not, as they were not asked but.... ykwim)

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 20:55

I think before they have had a very pragmatic response...not doing any harm, and a nice bit of publicity, so let it go and enjoy the exposure for the site.

At the risk of repeating myself (moi? shurely not?) a regular column ties MN firmly to the DM masthead.

Not a good look, so worth asserting copyright of those sections used.

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 20:59

I am personally looking forward to MN - the MIni-Series. I'm hoping for big hair and shoulder pads....and Joan Collins to play me.

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 21:00

No, actually, I'd prefer Glenn Close.

NotPlayingAnyMore · 16/08/2009 21:02

I'm up tempted yours to Daily continue Mail

posting up like yours this Daily so Mail

that up if yours my Daily quotes Mail

are up altered yours either Daily while Mail

stating up my yours username Daily or Mail

as up a yours member Daily of Mail

Mumsnet up then yours I Daily can Mail

sue up them yours for Daily libel Mail

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 21:04

nice look, tragically doesn't libel them, just insults them.

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 21:05

sorry, being dim there!

Don't think you can sue for libel. Its not libelous to report verbatim your posts.

PrincessToadstool · 16/08/2009 21:06

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 21:06

...even if they remove the lovely bold bits...

LilyOfTheMountain · 16/08/2009 21:13

Thank you PT LOL

And you know I could go back to Peachy on the main board and only have secret crap namesfor other things

Yay to that

PaulDacreEatsBabies · 16/08/2009 21:14

spot on beanieb. I don't understand why 1) they appear to be so clueless about this (copying and pasting someone else's copyright notice - WTF? and possibly an infringement itself) and 2) so unbothered.

Swedes · 16/08/2009 21:17

I think the idea of private rooms on Mumsnet is terrible. It will totally spoil the democratic nature of Mumsnet. We'll all think all the pretty/witty people are in the invitation-only VIP room, when in fact they're watching Property Ladder with their snoring DPs. It will be Moldies all over again.

Swedes · 16/08/2009 21:19

It will be Moldies all over again. And we'll all blame Aitch.

desertgirl · 16/08/2009 21:19

Have been thinking about the copyright issue (am a lawyer but this is not my field - I did read various papers on fair use in the US (therefore irrelevant for these purposes) for a legal academic I used to know, and the one thing I recall was how complicated the whole issue seemed to be).

Some of you seem to be saying you would rather the copyright in posts were with the poster. To be honest I think that would make life more difficult - if the DM copied a three line post of yours, I think you would have more difficulty arguing against fair use than Mumsnet would if the DM copied 175 lines of various posts - not to mention the logistical difficulties of trying to actually enforce the rights you did have against the DM (to do which you would end up having to put your real names in the public domain in connection with the issue raised, and would basically increase the chance of people who know you getting curious and searching around on mumsnet.)

as far as I know from the legal and other MBs I have played around on, the Mumsnet approach is the default one (even if Justine had not admitted that they lifted the terms from somewhere else - they are relatively standard).

Personally, though I have not posted a lot (mostly just read) and don't think I have ever posted anything terribly embarrassing - there is no way my mother would come across anything I write on here; she would almost certainly read it if it were published in the DM (she insists she reads it for the puzzle page )- that does make a difference to the 'feel' of MN for me.

NotPlayingAnyMore · 16/08/2009 21:19

I'm messing about, madameDefarge

(though I've inadvertently brought up a point: sadly, messing about is all I feel confident to do on MN now - you won't see me asking for support about any personal situation - however vague - here again )

abra1d · 16/08/2009 21:20

I'm smirking a bit about this 'Mners are SO very different from Daily Mail-ers', we're all just so liberal.

Every week, no, every day, someone will post asking if they should 'report' someone for failing to parent their children in a way they consider correct: eg, leaving a six-year-old alone outside a shop for five minutes, or for giving their child a medicine which they don't consider suitable.

Or they'll ask if they are unreasonable for wanting to hit someone (usually another woman) in the face for doing something they didn't like.

If we want a punitive approach to the tricky business of being a mother in the 21st century we don't need to worry about the DM: some (a minority but a loud one) here will provide it first-hand.

PaulDacreEatsBabies · 16/08/2009 21:21

The private rooms idea (if really floated by MN) shows such a collosal lack of judgment I'm starting to get worried. Did they learn nothing from Moldiegate? As the girl always picked second to last for netball, I dread such an idea. It's impractical too. I post sporadically - I can't access MN during the day - what if I posted in a private room and someone with the answer to my problem was trying to answer me, but because I wasn't online I couldn't OK them? I like tuning in and catching up. Stupid idea.

PaulDacreEatsBabies · 16/08/2009 21:23

Dynasty ended with a shoot out in the wedding chapel. I'm not sure that's the kind of blaze of glory we want MN to end in.

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 21:24
Grin
madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 21:25

Just a bit of bunny boiling then, eh?

desertgirl · 16/08/2009 21:26

pauldacre, lots and lots of businesses copy things like the copyright notice, as illogical as it may sound. Look around - there aren't that many different ones out there, many have very largely been lifted from each other (including by expensive law firms!)

not to mention the number of businesses who have clearly just borrowed an email disclaimer that their law firm uses, as it is written in the way you would write a disclaimer for emails likely to be providing legal advice

I would be really saddened if MN went the way of private rooms.

madameDefarge · 16/08/2009 21:29

I think is just that diversity of opinion that makes MN. nobody caters to anybody, its just get on with it. I laugh my pants off at the parent police...it's such good value. And I am sure if anybody paid any attention to me, a few might want to give me a sound thrashing for my snotty ways...

oopsagainandagain · 16/08/2009 21:30

madameDefarge I pretty much agree with everything you've said!

Have been discussing this today with my DH who is in the internet/comp programming industry.

The internet is the Wild West re the law so it isn't so mad that Justine et al have admitted to having no idea what the copyright means on all of thie.

I'm not sure that this means they can jaut change the rule without telling us- or adding to them/taking things away ad hoc as happened the other day (though this is my opinion...)

But as they don't understnad and we don't understnad and if we took a mass action VS MN if we want our posts deleting en masse.... wouldn't it just be easier to draw a line in the sand and ask who is in and who is out at this stage..

And if we wnat out- considering the fact that MN didn't understand the terms and conditions when they asked us to abide by them- why can't we just leav and take our stuff with us???

PaulDacreEatsBabies · 16/08/2009 21:31

Where did my post go?

Anyway, what I said was, if you are going to cut and paste (oh the irony) it's a good idea to read it and at least have some idea what the words mean individually and together.

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