Could Neurodiverse Mumsnetters be renamed or its description changed to clarify it is for adults?

[selffellatingouroborosofhate]

Please consider modifying the name and description of the Neurodiverse Mumsnetters board to make it clearer that it is intended for neurodivergent adults.

We often see threads from parents of neurodivergent children that would be more appropriately in SN Children. The posters would be more likely to get the support they seek if they posted in the correct board.

Additionally, some threads are unpleasant to read because children like the children we once were are described mainly in terms of the challenges they pose to their parents. Whilst this is understandable because parents don't ask for help with the aspects of parenting that are not challenging, it has the unintended effect of increasing the negative messaging that we as neurodivergent adults see about neurodivergence, and we get enough of that already without it being posted on the board set aside for us to support each other.

Oh shit, sorry. That was meant to be Parents insist on posting on MNers without children threads.

I was trying to ask that questions about parenting autistic children be more clearly signposted to the SN boards. No, I didn't phrase it very clearly. Am I not allowed to misjudge things?

Your questions have helped me clarify what I actually meant, so thank you.

No problem

If you look at the board, it already says similar. It already says “This board exists primarily for the use of Neurodiverse Mumsnetters. Others are welcome to post but please be respectful.”

Do you realise you are asking for grace because you were unclear/got something wrong, whilst criticising people for doing the same thing

MN isn't a safe space for anybody. There have always been non-Black people posting drivel on Black Mumsnetters and parents waxing lyrical about not knowing true love until you have a child on MNers Without Children.

MNHQ have made it clear they won't stop people on specific boards.

Evening, all. As others have said, the text at the top of the board explains all this, we hope. "This board exists primarily for the use of Neurodiverse Mumsnetters. Others are welcome to post but please be respectful." If that is nnot quite clear though, we'd be happy to consider changing it or adding to it. Perhaps something directing parents of ND children to the SEN boards might do it? But we'd be interested to hear what others think so do comment below and we'll keep reading.

I'm not keen on any situation where people post with terms such as 'we', 'we're', or 'our', but are actually representing their views. I am ND and I don't align with the views of @selffellatingouroborosofhate.

It might also be worth knowing that the SN boards don't appear in active conversations for good reason. That has been the case for many years. So unless someone went looking for the SN section, they may not find it.

I personally don't find it triggering that someone might find a trait of mine hard to live with. I find myself hard to live with sometimes!

There's a difference between many people making the same error because something is labelled unclearly and one person making an error.

The message at the top of the board says one thing, but the message at the top of each thread is much less clear. "Neurodiverse parenting" could mean "parenting a neurodivergent child" or "parenting whilst being neurodivergent". If someone sees a thread, they'll think "this is the board to post on about my toddler".

When everyone reading a board sees the threads about children, which they will do because they have eyes, "we" is a reasonable word to use.

When the negative mental health outcomes of constant negative messaging on autistic people as a class are written up as a paper in Nature, the most prestigious science journal in the world, "we" is a reasonable word to use. Individual exceptions do not invalidate a class analysis.

There is a huge debate about how much of a class autistic people are. There will be many autistic people who will never have the privilege to be aware that they are being negatively messaged. There will also be those that are highly intelligent but have such impaired theory of mind that it won't occur to them that they are being negatively messaged because they don't recognise themselves in the description of the person that a post refers to.

In general, I'm sure if a poster started a thread about their child and you reported it, MNHQ could pop on to the thread and say "this topic is more appropriate, would you like us to move it, OP?" What they generally won't do is say "This thread will upset the folk who this board is intended for so we'll move it out of the way."

Me too! Neurodiverse means everyone which is not what they mean at all.

MNHQ could pop on to the thread and say "this topic is more appropriate, would you like us to move it, OP?"

Not the last time I reported one. The thread is still there, with all of three replies.