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Could Neurodiverse Mumsnetters be renamed or its description changed to clarify it is for adults?

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selffellatingouroborosofhate · Yesterday 08:53

Please consider modifying the name and description of the Neurodiverse Mumsnetters board to make it clearer that it is intended for neurodivergent adults.

We often see threads from parents of neurodivergent children that would be more appropriately in SN Children. The posters would be more likely to get the support they seek if they posted in the correct board.

Additionally, some threads are unpleasant to read because children like the children we once were are described mainly in terms of the challenges they pose to their parents. Whilst this is understandable because parents don't ask for help with the aspects of parenting that are not challenging, it has the unintended effect of increasing the negative messaging that we as neurodivergent adults see about neurodivergence, and we get enough of that already without it being posted on the board set aside for us to support each other.

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EmpressaurusKitty · Yesterday 12:17

HyggeTygge · Yesterday 10:48

Parents insist on posting on MNers without parents

I don't understand this, sorry

Oh shit, sorry. That was meant to be Parents insist on posting on MNers without children threads.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · Yesterday 12:29

Werhere · Yesterday 12:16

So you start a wooly thread
but expect people to know that by asking for it to stipulate the thread is for ND adults you actually mean something else

I was trying to ask that questions about parenting autistic children be more clearly signposted to the SN boards. No, I didn't phrase it very clearly. Am I not allowed to misjudge things?

Your questions have helped me clarify what I actually meant, so thank you.

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Werhere · Yesterday 13:34

selffellatingouroborosofhate · Yesterday 12:29

I was trying to ask that questions about parenting autistic children be more clearly signposted to the SN boards. No, I didn't phrase it very clearly. Am I not allowed to misjudge things?

Your questions have helped me clarify what I actually meant, so thank you.

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No problem

inthequietofdawn · Today 11:52

selffellatingouroborosofhate · Yesterday 11:36

The description could be similar to that for Black Mumsnetters, saying that NT people are welcome to post respectfully but that the space is primarily for ND Mumsnetters to discuss ND adult life.

Just because I hadn't hammered out the exact wording doesn't mean you need to get stroppy with me.

If you look at the board, it already says similar. It already says “This board exists primarily for the use of Neurodiverse Mumsnetters. Others are welcome to post but please be respectful.”

TheCurious0range · Today 11:59

Do you realise you are asking for grace because you were unclear/got something wrong, whilst criticising people for doing the same thing

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · Today 13:25

selffellatingouroborosofhate · Yesterday 10:23

You've missed a word: "here". "...that shouldn’t be allowed here".

Being talked about like we are burdens is soul-destroying, it's hurtful, and over time harms our mental health. ND people are bombarded with negative messaging all our lives. When someone NT posts about how they struggle to raise their ND child, that's more of the "burden" messaging.

The NT parents of ND children need support and they should get it from the SN boards set up for that purpose. It's unfair to expect us to solve their problems.

The ND MNetters board is meant to be a safe space for ND adults. "Burden" messaging makes it not a safe space any more. We are already disproportionately more likely to blame ourselves for things unfairly. ND MNetters should be a space for us to recover from that.

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MN isn't a safe space for anybody. There have always been non-Black people posting drivel on Black Mumsnetters and parents waxing lyrical about not knowing true love until you have a child on MNers Without Children.

MNHQ have made it clear they won't stop people on specific boards.

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